Another Divorce Story
Shortly after my daughter was born, I married her mother in order to take responsibility for my daughter. Her mother and I had been living together for about a year. For seven years we were father and daughter. She was my “angel baby” who made the world a different place for me, and I thought I was doing the right thing.
My son was born a few years later. I had a good job and was steadily accumulating wealth. I wasn’t madly in love with the mother, but my children meant the world to me.
When my daughter was almost seven years old, the mother disappeared with my daughter and her younger brother. Her family denied any knowledge of her whereabouts, but police investigating the missing persons report I had filed found them living with her parents.
She wanted a divorce, and knew I would want custody of the children. She began making all of the standard false allegations that are now routine in family law child custody cases. One of her claims, in attempt to portray me as a villain, was that I had once accused her of lying about the paternity of one of the children.
Six months later, with the custody case approaching, I got a phone call from my lawyer who stated that the mother was now claiming I was not the father of my daughter. A DNA paternity test soon revealed that this time the mother was telling the truth. The news was shocking, devastating, and very depressing. Not only was my daughter not really my daughter, but my marriage was built on a lie.
Nevertheless, I still loved her like my daughter and continued paying “temporary” child support for her in order to be “allowed” to continue to “visit” her along with my son. In fact, this revelation about what sort of person the mother really is only made me more determined to get custody of both children, as this sordid gaming of children’s lives was typical not of the mother but of her parents whom she ran back to live with. It wasn’t a matter of whether I wanted custody or not, for the sake of the children I had to get them out of that sort of life.
During the trial, the mother testified under oath that she and “Jerry” had a fling while she was living with me, and that they discussed it and decided “it would be better if they let me think I was the father because I had more money. “Jerry” is not the bio father’s real name, and I use that name not to protect his innocence/guilt but because when the mother revealed the name of the bio father she said his name was “Jerry”, but it turned out later that was a lie too. After lying to me for seven years about paternity, she was now lying to the court naming a different man who didn’t even know her. The court was not interested when I revealed this information.
Further, she testified under oath, that the reason she lied to me was to get money. And she had begun alienating the children from me, doing anything and everything she possibly could to prevent the children and I from seeing each other – even the judge admitted it. I produced as evidence in court her sworn statement on a paternity affidavit where she swore under oath that I was the father of my “daughter”.
A normal person might think her revealing the sordid actions she committed using a child as bait in a fraud and perjury scam would work against her in a custody dispute. It took me a while to understand, but the reason she revealed the fact that she had lied about paternity in order to get money was, because the way family law works in America today, this helped her win her case.
The “mother” not only was “awarded” custody, but also half of my life savings, child support for both children, alimony, and I even had to pay about half of her attorney fees. Using children in fraud and perjury scams pays, with no fear of losing anything, and that is why it is so common today.
Despite the court knowing all of this, her lies under oath did not stop, and neither did her attempts to block my access to my children, nor her attempts to alienate them from me by lying to them about me and encouraging them to hate me.
This all finally came to an end when one of the children reported to me and many others that the mother was doing the same thing her father and two brothers did to her, sexually abusing children. No, I didn’t finally get custody as a normal person would expect. The mother carrying on her family tradition of pedophilia was swept under the rug by DHS/CPS and it was never even brought up in the hearing meant to address it.
Instead, they did what they always do, go after the father. They said that because I admitted that I occasionally have a beer or two on weekends when the children are with me, they are going to put ME on supervised visitation. Being put on supervised visitation because your ex-spouse is molesting the children is very disconcerting. I had grown accustomed to and very weary of this sort of “justice” after a few dozen hearing with similar outcomes. Eventually, I gave up any and all hope that truth, justice, and children would ever matter in a “family court”, and began trying to accept the fact that it is all about gender and money, because I now know and understand fully how even a pedophile who admits harming children and committing perjury will come out a “winner” depending on gender of course.
Despite my being the victim of paternity fraud, along with my daughter, the mother got what she had set out to get when she began her fraud and perjury scheme using a child seven years earlier. I went from financial independence with two children to being in debt with two children I could not even call on the telephone, and one of them, the reason I married the mother in the first place, wasn’t even my real daughter. Not only have I committed no crime to justify my children and I being treated this way by government, but I wasn’t even the one who filed for divorce. I struggle every day to accept the fact that because I was born the wrong gender and this sort of thing is profitable for certain groups of people, that my children and I have been relegated to this being a way of life for us.
So, if you wonder why paternity fraud is rampant, it’s because not only is it legal for mothers to use children in fraud and perjury scams, it pays very well, and if you keep lying you can even avoid the inconvenience of having the “father” visit his “children” as you move on to the next guy. The only reason more women aren’t doing this sort of thing is due to their own morality and decency, because not only does our judiciary not discourage or punish it, they actually reward it, then pretend they are doing what is best for children, like mine.
