Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by grasser on Mar 9, 2006, 2:03pm
Been lurking here, just have one question: What do you guys do to reduce your sex drive? I’m a normal heterosexual male, late 20’s, good-looking, healthy, pretty much a loner so I don’t have a wild party lifestyle – don’t do drugs, don’t smoke, rarely drink.
Here’s the problem: I despise American women, but some of them look hot anyway. I pretty much stay the hell away from them as much as possible. Still, I’m a guy with normal drives and impulses, and sometimes I just gotta have it. It’s very annoying, and distracts me from other important work. I don’t like to watch porn either. Fuckin waste of time. I’ve been going to the gym everyday to lift weights, do cardio, I eat 3 square meals a day. How do you reduce desire for the female sex – besides going gay, of course.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Truthslayer on Mar 9, 2006, 2:24pm
My advice…be patient. Once you hit 30, you’ll gain total control of your libido.
Also, KEEP yourself healthy. You’ll find that in the 30’s you’ll HAVE to beat them off you…sadly, most of them will be overweight and unattractive.
Then there’s the foreign woman route. Go ask MagCitrate if it’s effective.
The best solution…LISTEN to their wining, LOOK at them in malls and at the beach, WATCH them eat. THAT’LL kill your libido VERY quickly.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by richbansha on Mar 9, 2006, 2:52pm
Mar 9, 2006, 2:03pm, grasser wrote:
How do you reduce desire for the female sex – besides going gay, of course.
One hell of a quandary to be sure! Fact is that the most brutal bitch of all, mother nature, is pushing you against your will. You are at that age. FWIW, you can’t go gay. Gays are genetic mutants. They say they knew they were gay when they were five years old. At that age, the rest of us didn’t even know we were supposed to put our wee wees in a girl’s much less up another boy’s ass.
Here are some tips to maybe help you along:
Wank when you must without apology. Hell, I brag about it even if I have no intention of doing so. You won’t go blind. If you know a good optometrist he can match contact lenses to your natural eye color. (kidding)
If you are white make latent racism your ally. (Not a moral solution but a practical one.) When you see a hottie imagine how many black dudes she sucked off. Try to picture them frosting her face.
Remember that they stink. The “natural feminine scent” that they have nowadays is every bit as sexy as a skunk.
Listen to women… I mean really listen to them. After half an hour of her heroic autobiography, poor wally will be as limp as overcooked pasta.
Set your standards impossibly high. Yes, you will do the Olsen twins but only both at once.
Make 35 your cut off age. Not younger, older. Hit on the miserable broads in the tweed jackets and skirts. Sometimes they want a break from their cats and they pose less risk to you.
Finally, save up for a good sex tour. A week in Manila, Bangkok or Majorca will do wonders for your attitude and perspective on Ameriskanks.
Good Luck Baby Brother!
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by khankrumthebulgar on Mar 9, 2006, 4:14pm
Grasser,
Youngster here are some things to consider. Healthy Hetero Males are hard wired to put their business into any suitable female that is remotely fecund at your age. It is a challenge to control your Libido due no doubt the testosterone levels in your body. As you age it declines.
Yes it can be a distraction. Unlike many Here at nearly 50 I can remember our Women before Feminism ruined them. They actually loved Men, loved the attention, and when Married put out. NO longer.
The Boomer Men caved to the Boomer Women and we have all been screwed in the process. Sadly there is little if any hope that it will get better any time soon. Here in lies the bad news. It no longer makes sense to Marry in the US. Just don’t do it. Lots of reasons.
Outside the West, in the Third World is literally half of humanity. Most of the younger Females would chop off an arm to have an American Husband. Go forth and sample the native cuisine. It will totally change your mind about US Women.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by milk that puppy on Mar 9, 2006, 4:18pm
keep those pipes clean!
Masturbating may protect against prostate cancer
Douglas Fox, Adelaide
It will make you go blind. It will make your palms grow hairy. Such myths about masturbation are largely a thing of the past. But the latest research has even better news for young men: frequent self-pleasuring could protect against the most common kind of cancer.
A team in Australia led by Graham Giles of The Cancer Council Victoria in Melbourne asked 1079 men with prostate cancer to fill in a questionnaire detailing their sexual habits, and compared their responses with those of 1259 healthy men of the same age. The team concludes that the more men ejaculate between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to develop prostate cancer.
The protective effect is greatest while men are in their twenties: those who had ejaculated more than five times per week in their twenties, for instance, were one-third less likely to develop aggressive prostate cancer later in life (BJU International, vol 92, p 211).
The results contradict those of previous studies, which have suggested that having had many sexual partners, or a high frequency of sexual activity, increases the risk of prostate cancer by up to 40 per cent. The key difference is that these earlier studies defined sexual activity as sexual intercourse, whereas the latest study focused on the number of ejaculations, whether or not intercourse was involved.
The team speculates that infections caused by intercourse may increase the risk of prostate cancer. “Had we been able to remove ejaculations associated with sexual intercourse, there should have been an even stronger protective effect of other ejaculations,” they suggest. “Men have many ways of using their prostate which do not involve women or other men,” Giles adds.
Macho exaggeration
Giles accepts the possibility that the men who completed the questionnaires could have lied about their habits. But he doubts this skewed the results, since questions about masturbation are unlikely to evoke the same macho exaggeration as questions about, say, number of sexual partners.
But why should ejaculating more often cut the risk of prostate cancer? The team speculates that ejaculation prevents carcinogens building up in the gland. The prostate, together with the seminal vesicles, secretes the bulk of the fluid in semen, which is rich in substances such as potassium, zinc, fructose and citric acid.
Generating the fluid involves concentrating these components from the bloodstream up to 600-fold – and this could be where the trouble starts. Studies in dogs show that carcinogens such as 3-methylcholanthrene, found in cigarette smoke, are also concentrated in prostate fluid.
“It’s a prostatic stagnation hypothesis,” says Giles. “The more you flush the ducts out, the less there is to hang around and damage the cells that line them.”
Sexual repertoire
His findings suggest an intriguing parallel between prostate cancer and breast cancer, as recent studies indicate that lactating reduces a woman’s risk of breast cancer, perhaps because this also flushes out carcinogens. Alternatively, ejaculation might induce prostate cells to mature fully, making them less susceptible to carcinogens.
“All these mechanisms are totally speculative,” cautions breast cancer expert Loren Lipworth of the International Epidemiology Institute in Rockville, Maryland.
But if the finding is confirmed, future health advice from doctors may no longer be restricted to diet and exercise. “Masturbation is part of people’s sexual repertoire,” says Anthony Smith, deputy director of the Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and Society at La Trobe University in Melbourne.
“If these findings hold up, then it’s perfectly reasonable that men should be encouraged to masturbate,” he says.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Mes on Mar 10, 2006, 12:49am
Realize that sex is an illusion.
The reason you want to have sex with women is not because of physical pleasure. This is not the top reason at all.
The reason is that you want to be validated by women. Deep in the recesses of your mind, in your subconscious, you believe that putting your peepee inside the vagina of a girl and shaking and shaking it until your peepee goes ooo ooo and that sticky stuff falls out somehow makes you a better man. It makes you a big man. Yes!
Please note that I am not trying to insult you. I have gone through the same thing. But as I am about to become 30 and truly think about the motivations for what I do…I realize that the “big challenge” of sex with women is by and large PSYCHOLOGICAL. We want to be affirmed by women, and be told that we are good, sexy, and worthy in their eyes.
We have to come to grips with the fact that this is the key motivating force, a broken mindset that gives a crap what American women think about us. Don’t believe me? Well then just ask yourself why do incredible rotten stinkin filthy rich men still get married. Why? Because they want sex? Gimmee a break, they can buy all the sex they want with what the interest on their bank account earns in an hour. They can get the most amazing escorts they want without having to put up with any resistance, any headaches.
But this is not enough for them. It’s more than just the sex. They can get the sex. Lots of it. No, they want to be AFFIRMED by women and be told that they are good, sexy, and masculine able men. Which would not be a bad thing in itself, if the affirmation you were seeking was from decent women, capable of properly judging men, and not F*CKED UP AMERICAN WOMEN.
Look deep inside yourself. Learn your true motivations. Then you will be able to answer your own questions.
It’s not a sex drive thing. It’s an affirmation thing.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Costasman on Mar 10, 2006, 1:26am
Grasser,
The best way to reduce your drive for AW is to marry one. You’ll be up to your eyeballs in shit pretty soon, mate, and then sink down like a rock after you divorce her.
Also you need to realize that it’s not that THEY are hot (in fact, most of them look like shit), it’s your own hormones that play with your imagination and make you see them that way.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by jackbauer on Mar 10, 2006, 2:32am
(I find this guy a little freaky. Since you asked, however, here is something I’ve read in the past)
http://celibacy.info/CelibacyNL02.html
5) Begin Doing the Mula Bandha
This is an important and profound yogic practice that you should begin doing right away, and continue doing as much as possible. You contract your anus, and the whole area from the anus to the navel, and draw it up towards your spine. This practice will give physical aid in beating sex addiction, as well as occult spiritual aid. It will also begin to improve your outer karma immediately.
By doing the Mula Bandha, you are engaging in the exact opposite practice from sexing. In sexing, you are sending energy to your lower centers. In sexing, you are enlarging the physical and astral channels that flow downward in the lower centers. With the Mula Bandha, you begin doing the opposite thing. You begin to contract the physical and astral channels below. You begin to lift the creative energy back up and arrest its downward flow, both physically and astrally.
By sexing you have engorged your lower organs and chakras, sending inordinate energy down there for a long time. So now you need to do the opposite, and for a long time. Doing the Mula Bandha is doing the opposite.
You can do the Mula Bandha any time, anywhere. You can do it both sitting and standing. The first time you do it, you should be sitting. You basically tighten your anal sphincter muscles, just like you when you are trying to avoid going pee, or avoiding defecation. You just pull in as firmly as you can, for as long as you can.
The first time you do this may be a strange or amazing experience. You may experience a kind of “electrical charge” in your mind, sort of putting you into a strange, exhilarated state while doing it. It may even seem like a kind of mind jolt. Your mind seems to spin. This is because you are withdrawing a huge amount of energy from that area back up to your brain and higher chakras. If you do it on a daily basis and cut down on sexing, the jolt will become less great. To feel this strange charge in your mind during the Mula Bandha is a good sign. Imagine, as you pull up, that you are withdrawing all energy up your spine and out the top of your head. Imagine that your sex desire is now being “flown as a kite” — on a string up your spine and out through your head. Imagine that you are offering that sex energy up as an offering to the Deity, like fruit laid out on a beautiful plate. Inwardly say, “Here, I give this to you. It is all for you. Whatever enjoyment could be mine, I now give it to You. I don’t want it anymore. I prefer You to that. Take it, and please do with it what You will.” When you do this bandha, speak inwardly to the Divinity in that manner.
It may sound childlike to address the Deity simply and sincerely. But to be childlike is a great advantage in dealing with God. The Deity is “more human” that we are, and responds to sincerity immediately. The Deity is the very source of personality. The very existence of your own “personality” springs from His. A mystic once said: “He Who made the ears, shall He not hear?” Know that God hears your sincere words and thoughts just like the kindest Mother, and He will be very impressed with your efforts in this. Another saying of the mystics is: “Every time you take one step toward God, He takes a thousand steps toward you.” He will cover the distance for you.
After you get used to doing it, get better and better at it. Pull more steadily, firmly, and continuously. Pull only moderately at the beginning so that you don’t pull or pop anything down there. If you overdo it and try to contract too strongly at first, you could create a hemorrhoid. (This is more of a possibility when holding in a bellyful of air — another yogic practice. But to be on the safe side, be gentle and don’t overdo it at the beginning.) At first you will only be able to do it for a moment. With time you will be able to stay pulling for longer periods. Get so you can stay pulled up like that for a minute, two minutes, five, etc. Do it when you’re walking, in the car, at the office — and especially when you are losing control of your arousal.
By doing the Mula Bandha you actually begin to “drain the swamp” of your sin and bad karma. You are draining the ignorant and dualistic astral karma that has been seeping down there. You have deposited a great quantity of sin and dark energy there, now you are draining the old, and sending the new, up to God to burn and transmute. By doing this a lot you can begin to see positive changes in your external world. You are turning back from sin; shrinking your sexual organ instead of enlarging it. You are going back to the state of childhood.
Wherever your planet Pluto lies — in whatever astrological house — you will have generated much stress, turmoil, and trauma there by sexing. Now as you do the Mula Bandha, you will begin to see these troubles and toils drain away from that astrological house. For example, maybe you live where Pluto is in your Third House. You probably have problems with communications, receive threatening letters. You have many hard drive crashes, get hacked, have viruses — it ruins your business, etc. With a 3rd House Pluto you may even develop problems seeing, hearing, or getting around. But now by doing the Mula Bandha these problems will dry up. Or maybe you have Pluto in 8th, so you are always getting involved the lawsuits, the tax collector, and life-and-death survival struggles. These problems will begin to fade.
By doing the Mula Bandha you will stop having that roiling feeling of fullness, rawness, or aliveness down in your sex organ. Your sex organ will stop bothering you; stop “calling” to you. Instead of feeling like an open wound that bleeds, the area will come to feel very cool and quiet. This is what you want. Eventually, if you stop entertaining sex thoughts in your mind, your sex organ will cease generating sperm. Then all of that energy will be directly sublimated to other centers of your body and to your mind. Your mind will begin to become very powerful.
Women will benefit from this practice in the same way as men.
With the Mula Bandha you are beginning to master the prana in your body; the subtle energy beneath grosser physical forms. Your sexual energy is like the Master Bank Account of prana. Before, you were like an open gusher, spilling it on the ground as complete waste. Now you are going to take charge of it, learn to direct it, and let it do great things for you. All yogis who tread the highest path of God Realization, incidentally, must master this bandha. So you will be getting free of sex damage, plus building your launch pad for spiritual epiphanies.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by jackbauer on Mar 10, 2006, 2:52am
If interested, read the whole article. I don’t buy all his Eastern mysticism type stuff — but he has some good points.
Here’s one thing that will always remain in my memory:
6) Realize her body is full of the various cruds that makes up the human body (this is a favorite of the Asian sages). Excrement is sitting in her (seems to me he said 15-25 lbs before — but he must have edited this out), all sorts of fatty deposits, weird impurities and drugs, gristle and bone, etc. She has bacteria in her mouth, and when she wakes up it stinks. Even if she seems pretty, there is even more putrid bacteria in her lower orifices. She farts and defecates just like any animal. Try to visualize her skeleton beneath the skin, muscle, fat and fascia. See, she’s not really a turn-on after all.
He’s also got this quote/mantra in his Ebook that makes good sense:
“Ever fed, ever hungry. Never fed, never hungry”
That not only makes sense for women but for any other “bad habit”
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by thor on Mar 10, 2006, 3:14am
I think this is paranoid in the extreme. AW are a pain in the ass and potentially dangerous but they can be dealt with given a few basic precautions. However, celibacy is not a viable solution. It is also unhealthy. Anytime I hear of a man with prostate cancer, I think, he was celibate or forced to be. Going overseas is also a great solution. I have had fantastic luck that way and any man who doesn’t has been socially inept from my observations. Women aren’t the evil creatures so many of you make them out to be. They have their faults which many of you gladly point out daily, but they are also life’s greatest joy and that is attested to most eloquently by the bitter tears of rejection and disappointment I observe in this forum.
The problem I observe most often is many men here don’t know how to deal with or handle women. You can give them everything they want and never compromise your manhood one bit. It doesn’t even have to be expensive. Little shit means more to them than big stuff. Be a man and don’t take their shit at all. Be ready to walk away if they get childish and stupid. They will usually come back groveling.
I have two girlfriends and get morning head every morning. I’ve been doing it for years. I’m not married and they don’t live with me. No kids either. I get my shirts ironed, my house cleaned, and good meals cooked for me every night. I just know how to deal with women. It isn’t that hard, you just have to think like your prey and use it against them.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by richbansha on Mar 10, 2006, 3:29am
That’s nice to say Thor, but not everyone has your interpersonal gifts. For the rest of us, broads are hard work. Trying to get at them or away from them — no matter. It is still drudgery.
I know that these things can be learned and practiced. But wouldn’t it be more fulfilling to take up the clarinet instead?
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by thor on Mar 10, 2006, 6:47am
No way. I love sex and would never give it up. I’d rather die than not be able to screw anymore. I’m fat and middle aged too. I had a crappy marriage with no sex and swore I would never have it happen again and it hasn’t. I’ve been an AFC much of my life too. There are a lot of women who are just as frustrated as men. In fact, very few women have orgasms regularly and this is the biggest reason they withhold sex and act bitchy. Its a challenge to their men to make them come like they expect you to. You guys should check out a book by Nora Haydn. She tells us what we’re doing wrong. Adopt her techniques. They are simple and easy to implement and your girl will be singing in the morning and making you breakfast the next day.
I believe that nature will start to kill you off if you aren’t capable of breeding. Its simple things like telling them what they want to hear and not taking their crap. I love to eat pussy too and that goes a long way to making them eat out my hands. Dump them if they don’t give head or act too complicated about sex. Go overseas. Both the women I’m talking about are European. I’ve had this kind of success with AW too, but it was a long time ago.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Unable2Login on Mar 11, 2006, 2:21pm
It seems like people have replied with great comments so my words will probably be redundant.
The only way to reduce your sex drive is to let biology take its course. As you get older, it lowers. And since you’re not even 30, it’ll be a long time before that happens. You might as well accept that your sex drive on average will stay the way it is for the next decade.
But you’ve been blessed with a higher brain, and you can work your way around this. These words have gotten me through it:
“It’s just a stinky hole.”
There, that’s all it is. It’s overrated and not worth it. Besides, the lot of women start showing their true colors after you have sex with them. They think you owe them the world or something just because they spread their legs for you. Several weeks, months, or even decades of your life is worth more than 30 minutes with a woman, remember that. To be honest, I dunno how the hell men can still sleep with women in this country without fear of her committing treason and stabbing you in the back, like that retired Air Force officer in Michigan.
That’s another thing, just think about non-celebrity men who have been shafted by women and, though I hate to sound like a feminist, put yourself in that person’s shoes and imagine it happening to you. It ain’t worth it.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by rule62 on Mar 11, 2006, 4:02pm
Mar 10, 2006, 12:49am, Mes wrote:Realize that sex is an illusion.
The reason you want to have sex with women is not because of physical pleasure. This is not the top reason at all.
The reason is that you want to be validated by women. Deep in the recesses of your mind, in your subconscious, you believe that putting your peepee inside the vagina of a girl and shaking and shaking it until your peepee goes ooo ooo and that sticky stuff falls out somehow makes you a better man. It makes you a big man. Yes!
Please note that I am not trying to insult you. I have gone through the same thing. But as I am about to become 30 and truly think about the motivations for what I do…I realize that the “big challenge” of sex with women is by and large PSYCHOLOGICAL. We want to be affirmed by women, and be told that we are good, sexy, and worthy in their eyes.
We have to come to grips with the fact that this is the key motivating force, a broken mindset that gives a crap what American women think about us. Don’t believe me? Well then just ask yourself why do incredible rotten stinkin filthy rich men still get married. Why? Because they want sex? Gimmee a break, they can buy all the sex they want with what the interest on their bank account earns in an hour. They can get get the most amazing escorts they want without having to put up with any resistance, any headaches.
But this is not enough for them. It’s more than just the sex. They can get the sex. Lots of it. No, they want to be AFFIRMED by women and be told that they are good, sexy, and masculine able men. Which would not be a bad thing in itself, if the affirmation you were seeking was from decent women, capable of properly judging men, and not F*CKED UP AMERICAN WOMEN.
Look deep inside yourself. Learn your true motivations. Then you will be able to answer your own questions.
It’s not a sex drive thing. It’s an affirmation thing.
Interesting. You may be on to something. Thanks.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by mamonaku on Mar 11, 2006, 4:44pm
Whats up Grasser!
Welcome.
I was told that eating Tofu will help cut down your sex drive. Buddhist monks in Japan are known to eat Tofu to “cool” their desire.
Although there are no confirmed studies that I know if, I do know that the average sex life of most Japanese men is once per week. So tofu might do the trick.
I have to agree with Thor that all women aren’t bad. I do blame AW in part for the state of Femerica but… women are naturally selfish creatures, and I can accept that. We men aren’t saints either. I’ve done my share of messed up things. I can live with that.
All the old skool peoples knew it… the Greeks, Romans, Babylonians, Hebrews… that women are, by their nature, gullible and selfish. That’s old news.
The way I see it, the problem is that men don’t have the tools to properly manage a woman’s behavior.
If a lady was acting crazy in the old skool, the police wouldn’t interfere if the Husband had to check her. A few smacks on the plump, round, firm bottom of the obnoxious missy, and she was ok. She might be mad at the time, but who gives a Damn about that? “A woman changes her mind like the Autumn sky”.
Nowadays, even attempting to correct a chick when she needs correction could result in a minimum of 100 years imprisonment, a $200,000 fine, or both.
What makes my blood boil is the fact that we Men don’t receive the Equal Protection that we are entitled to under the Constitution. That’s the main issue.
I don’t hate the player, I hate the game! 
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by wayman on Mar 11, 2006, 4:45pm
Mar 10, 2006, 12:49am, Mes wrote:
The reason is that you want to be validated by women. Deep in the recesses of your mind, in your subconscious, you believe that putting your peepee inside the vagina of a girl and shaking and shaking it until your peepee goes ooo ooo and that sticky stuff falls out somehow makes you a better man. It makes you a big man. Yes!
Interesting conclusion you have come to.
I as well have contemplated the very thought quite extensively.
My conclusion for Myself:
I just like to Pound ass. It helps me cope with them.
Simple.
I take my aggressions out on the booty. It gives me a chance to get rough, to smash it, Hit it, Beat it up.
It is very therapeutic for me.
If a woman doesn’t put out for me regularly – I simply cannot keep them around. Their Nagging, Whining, Bitching will Drive me INSANE and make me want to punch their face in. – Unless they let me fuck them regularly and get the tension of not punching their face in out of my system.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Mes on Mar 11, 2006, 4:55pm
And I think it goes beyond just the example of married rich guys.
Just think about very wealthy men who, for instance, like to chase beautiful women, go after them, woo them…
They lavish them with gifts, attention, and do all kind of things to win these girls over.
Why? Because they really want to have sex with that beautiful woman?
I doubt that, given the fact that these men could likely pick up the phone book a order any size, shape, and flavor of woman and have her at his house in minutes. The most beautiful women. Just order them and you can have them, without putting up with all the bullsh*t of chasing them and all the resistance.
But the fact of the matter is that these rich guys like the game. More specifically, they like to WIN the game, that is, finally get that woman to give in to them, and thus affirm them.
They like to feel like studs when they chase these women. They like to flash their fancy cars, fancy jewelery, fancy suits, so that those women will think that they are hot, so that those women will stroke their egos.
This is why these rich guys chase these women. It’s not the sex. They can buy that easily. It is not the physical need for sex. It is the psychological need for affirmation.
Whether it is right or foolish to pursue affirmation from women, to wrap up your identity in what these women think of you, I’ll leave up to you. All I want to call attention to is that this is what is at the core of men’s “need” to pursue women.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by celibateforlife on Mar 11, 2006, 5:32pm
I’m 40+ and a healthy hetero, but it’s turned off. My divorce wiped out years of savings and has left scars on my heart. I got years of recovery ahead of me and frankly AW are not worth the effort after what I have been through.
If you had any idea of the sh!t I’ve been through, you’d swear off women too.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by logic101 on Mar 11, 2006, 5:33pm
Mar 11, 2006, 4:55pm, Mes wrote:Whether it is right or foolish to pursue affirmation from women, to wrap up your identity in what these women think of you, I’ll leave up to you. All I want to call attention to is that this is what is at the core of men’s “need” to pursue women.
There is truth to this but thankfully not all men foolishly display this behavior.
Some men actually just want a very uncomplicated(very little drama no games/chase), feminine woman who actually likes herself and men. They exist but they are not the majority in the western world.
Logic 101
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by meateater on Mar 11, 2006, 7:52pm
My suggestions:
1. Dont deny it. Hire a cute escort that can give you a good BJ. Bang, Pay, and Leave her after that.
2. If you want to reduce it, find something to distract your focus on walking vaginas.
Personally, I listen to heavy metal music which often helps me to concentrate in many things and drive down my sex appetite. I have a hard time looking on the porn sites or magazines when I listen to heavy metal music. I think the reason for that is because I am a metal junkie. Many walking vaginas feel that I don’t give a shit about them when I focus on the music. I think only few of them listening to metal.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by mememe on Mar 11, 2006, 8:52pm
Mar 11, 2006, 4:44pm, mamonaku wrote:
I was told that eating Tofu will help cut down your sex drive. Buddhist monks in Japan are known to eat Tofu to “cool” their desire.Although there are no confirmed studies that I know if, I do know that the average sex life of most Japanese men is once per week. So tofu might do the trick.
It’s because tofu & soybean products actually increases the amount of estrogen your body produces.
As a man, is that something your want more of your body to produce?
Reduce desire for sex or not — personally, I would have to say no.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by TyHigs on Mar 11, 2006, 10:04pm
I subscribe to MES’s Theory 100%. In fact, each time someone recommends “go see a hooker,” I bring this up. Unfortunately, most men can not even realize there is a disconnection between paying a hooker and ego validation. In fact, seeing a hooker does the opposite, it makes you feel like a loser who has to pay.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by H Rich on Mar 12, 2006, 12:52am
Mar 9, 2006, 2:03pm, grasser wrote:Been lurking here, just have one question: What do you guys do to reduce your sex drive? I’m a normal hetero male, late 20’s, good-looking, healthy, pretty much a loner so I don’t have a wild party lifestyle – don’t do drugs, don’t smoke, rarely drink.
Here’s the problem: I despise American women, but some of them look hot anyway. I pretty much stay the hell away from them as much as possible. Still, I’m a guy with normal drives and impulses, and sometimes I just gotta have it. It’s very annoying, and distracts me from other important work. I don’t like to watch porn either. Fuckin waste of time. I’ve been going to the gym everyday to lift weights, do cardio, I eat 3 square meals a day. How do you reduce desire for the female sex – besides going gay, of course.
Stay focused on your healthy future. Control your thoughts.
Best,
H. Rich
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Mack on Mar 12, 2006, 1:48am
Train in kung fu, chi kung, yoga to control emotions and libido. It works wonders for me and I am one of the horniest 35 year old men around who get no attention from hot Ameriskanks and whores. It clears your mind and you realize how worthless American women are and repulsive they are even if they have a nice ass and big tits.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by rule62 on Mar 12, 2006, 4:37am
Mar 11, 2006, 5:32pm, celibateforlife wrote:I’m 40+ and a healthy hetero, but it’s turned off. My divorce wiped out years of savings and has left scars on my heart. I got years of recovery ahead of me and frankly AW are not worth the effort after what I have been through.
If you had any idea of the sh!t I’ve been through, you’d swear off women too.
Please share your experience. It helps me and I think probably others in our moments of weakness.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by mamonaku on Mar 12, 2006, 9:57am
Mar 11, 2006, 8:52pm, mememe wrote:
Mar 11, 2006, 4:44pm, mamonaku wrote:
I was told that eating Tofu will help cut down your sex drive. Buddhist monks in Japan are known to eat Tofu to “cool” thier desire.Although there are no confirmed studies that I know if, I do know that the average sexlife of most Japanese men is once per week. So tofu might do the trick.It’s because tofu & soybean products actually increases the amount of estrogen your body produces.
As a man, is that something your want more of your body to produce?
Reduce desire for sex or not — personally, I would have to say no.
Wowzers!!!
I didn’t know that. I guess I better cut down the Miso (soybean paste) soup!!
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by kestral on Mar 12, 2006, 10:45am
Thor, the book sounds interesting. I tried to Amazon and Google “Nora Haydn” and “Nora Hayden”, which book are you referring to?
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Mes on Mar 12, 2006, 2:52pm
“Unfortunately, most men can not even realize there is a disconnection between paying a hooker and ego validation. In fact, seeing a hooker does the opposite, it makes you feel like a loser who has to pay.”
Well, the truth of the matter is that there really is no difference between paying a hooker and picking up a girl for a short time love affair.
The former requires direct cash payments in return for sex. The latter, and more legal option, requires payment through “in-kind” benefits, items such as food (fancy dinners), gifts, jewelery, etc., that have monetary value equal or more than the direct cash payments, but come in a different non-cash form. The legal option also requires the performance of silly social rituals such as “going out on a date.” But the end product is the same, sex for payments.
The situation is so ridiculous that I wonder if someone could start an escort service where
1. Three dates were required before you had sex and
2. Payment would not occur through cash, but through the giving of gifts with value equivalent to typical cash payments for a prostitute.
The escort would then be free to hock their gifts on eBay or some service like that, if they wished. Or they could just keep the gifts if they liked it.
It seems this would comply with all the legal requirements for a “date”, eliminating or greatly reducing the threat that the prostitute or john, for that matter, would be arrested.
The man who goes to a hooker is no greater a “loser” than the man who drives a fancy car and buys gifts in order to impress his woman. It is the same thing.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by male guest on Mar 12, 2006, 2:57pm
Mar 12, 2006, 2:52pm, Mes wrote:The situation is so ridiculous that I wonder if someone could start an escort service where
1. Three dates were required before you had sex and
2. Payment would not occur through cash, but through the giving of gifts with value equivalent to typical cash payments for a prostitute.
The escort would then be free to hock their gifts on eBay or some service like that, if they wished. Or they could just keep the gifts if they liked it.
It seems this would comply with all the legal requirements for a “date”, eliminating or greatly reducing the threat that the prostitute or john, for that matter, would be arrested.
LOL good one, Mes.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by celibateforlife on Mar 12, 2006, 6:11pm
Mar 12, 2006, 4:37am, rule62 wrote:
Mar 11, 2006, 5:32pm, celibateforlife wrote:I’m 40+ and a healthy hetero, but it’s turned off. My divorce wiped out years of savings and has left scars on my heart. I got years of recovery ahead of me and frankly AW are not worth the effort after what I have been through.If you had any idea of the sh!t I’ve been through, you’d swear off women too.
Please share your experience. It helps me and I think probably others in our moments of weakness.
During my divorce my ex-wife conspired to falsely accuse me of domestic abuse and assault despite the fact that we had not lived together for four years. As soon as I realized she was twisting my innocent words and actions to fit the definition of abuse, I stayed the hell away from her. Her lawyer told her she did not have a case and told her to stop being histrionic. The authorities told her she did not have a case. This came out of discovery materials during the divorce.
During the marriage, I hosted a bachelor party for my friend. My wife participated by being designated driver, to the reluctance of the guests. While at a dance bar, the victim of honor wasn’t enjoying the festivities, so my wife plotted with the guests to get me involved. I wound up on the stage with two dancers, and pictures were taken. Nothing that I was ashamed of.
Fast forward seven years later to divorce. The woman who set me up for those pictures tried to used them against me in the divorce. The guests who were at that party heard what she did and she earned the scorn of my friends when they realized who the real victim was. Three of them enthusiastically volunteered to testify against her and I told my lawyer I had three reliable witnesses. It was never brought up in court.
Between those two false accusations, I was devastated and can no longer trust a woman. They left scars so deep that I don’t know if they will ever heal. I am not interested in any relationship if it is that easy to falsely accuse a man of domestic abuse.
I suffered at the hands of a scheming vindictive woman who manipulated the legal system to her advantage and prolonged the divorce process, all while I was forced to live away from my house with most of my personal belongings locked out from me.
There were five years of painful separation and prolonged legal volleying before we ever saw the inside of a divorce court. She used her past work connections with the sheriff to uncover papers headed her way and she dodged the process servers. In cross examination, my lawyer highlighted to her doctor notes he had taken where she admitted she was delaying the divorce so she could go after my retirement income.
As you might imagine, the judge was not very impressed with her. But the damage was done.
My marriage relationship has left me… bitter. I have scars on my heart that will take years to heal. The woman I loved had abandoned the relationship and manipulated me into a one-sided separation agreement that cost me thousands of dollars and put me out on the street. She admitted an affair and adultery with another man. She ignored offers to reconcile, had extramarital affairs, maxed out the credit cards behind my back, and ruined my credit record. She conspired to conceal it, and the damage was done by the time I uncovered it.
My ex-wife was not the same person I married. Her vindictiveness, her disposition, and her betrayal devastated me. She shattered my trust in women. As a result, I put up walls around my heart and very few people are allowed in. Those who have violated my trust were shut out.
In hindsight I now recognize that it was a scam, not a marriage at all. This same person who had seduced me almost every night while I was courting her had become cold after the wedding vows were exchanged. She used every trick in the book to evade intimacy; not even on our wedding night did she want to make love. All intimacy was turned off like an electric switch. She countered my advances with excuses like she was too tired or she had a headache. She was a very crafty, very manipulative schemer whose tactics were so discreet that I bought those classic evasions. As I broke free of her spell during the separation, I realized that it was not my heart she had sought, but my wallet.
It was a sexless marriage – universally defined as a marriage with ten or less sexual intercourses per year. When we went to parties, she would tease me with promises of intimacy after the party; then she would stay out very late at night with friends effectively draining all her energy, thus being too tired to make love. There was not one party where this never failed to happen. She returned to volunteer firefighter and ambulance activities, which drained her energy and kept her away from home. Headaches were a common complaint, always at night when we were alone and never during activities, shopping sprees, or social gatherings.
And then this tired-out headache sufferer suddenly had the energy to engage in extramarital affairs, even to the point of multiple flights to visit her boyfriends behind my back. The betrayal of adultery was bad enough, but to learn that the headaches and fatigue were feigned has made me an extreme skeptic. If a woman complains of headaches when I attempt intimacy, I have trouble believing it anymore.
And women wonder why they can’t find a good man anymore…
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by khankrumthebulgar on Mar 12, 2006, 7:19pm
I went through the same shit with my first wife. She did everything possible to evade intimacy. Alot of it was both our our faults. But when it came to the divorce she feared my reaction if she was unreasonable. She knew if she was unreasonable I might take her life. It is tough to say that but she knew she could only push me so far then it was all out War. I would escalate a confrontation all the way to deadly force.
I took the high road. I did not want my children to be able to ever say their Father was a brute who abused their mother. I am now very glad we are not together. Celibateforlife give yourself time to heal. And go overseas to Cebu in the Philippines it will do you some good. You will see what decent Women are like. I swear it would make a limp noodle into an Iron Bar the way attractive Feminine Women there appreciate Men. It will restore your faith in the opposite Gender.
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Re: Advice: how to reduce sex drive?
Post by Yahoodi on Mar 14, 2006, 11:28am
Mar 12, 2006, 10:45am, kestral wrote:Thor, the book sounds interesting. I tried to Amazon and Google “Nora Haydn” and “Nora Hayden”, which book are you referring to?
The book is by Naura Hayden. Here’s the link.
There’s also this for Her.
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