Any happy marriages?
Any happy marriages?
Post by guest on Dec 22, 2005, 12:55pm
I know this isn’t the appropriate place for this question, but…
I doubt any posters here have had good experiences, however, does anyone know of others that have had good experiences? I can’t really ask this question of women because regardless of outcome, it’s a nice business/legal package for them. They might say it’s going well, but are simply happy to have the option to “cash out”. So, men, do you know of any guys that are just “happy as a pig in shit” or at least complacent, like: “I could take it or leave it, but marriage isn’t all bad.”
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by A on Dec 22, 2005, 1:17pm
Well I am happily married as is my brother.
I know a quite a few others but they are mostly either recent immigrants to the country with “traditional backgrounds” OR people who travel between countries. North American culture (at least where I am) is like a strong acid and if you’re not careful it will quickly eat away at any marriage.
Most people I know who have grown up and remained in North America are divorced at least once, many several times now. Both my sisters have been divorced twice.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by logic101 on Dec 22, 2005, 1:48pm
Dec 22, 2005, 12:55pm, guest wrote:I know this isn’t the appropriate place for this question, but…
I doubt any posters here have had good experiences, however, does anyone know of others that have had good experiences? I can’t really ask this question of women because regardless of outcome, it’s a nice business/legal package for them. They might say it’s going well, but are simply happy to have the option to “cash out”. So, men, do you know of any guys that are just “happy as a pig in shit” or at least complacent, like: “I could take it or leave it, but marriage isn’t all bad.”
It isn’t all bad for everyone (married or single). I’ll bet apples to oranges more men are (as you say) “happy as a pig in shit” with their non-feminist/non-westernized Foreign Woman. Especially outside of America.
-Logic 101
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by Snakey on Dec 22, 2005, 2:33pm
I’ve known of marriages which appear glowingly happy. A few years later you hear through the grapevine that so-and-so are getting divorced.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by SingleMan on Dec 22, 2005, 3:51pm
I know of one. They have no kids, and don’t want to have any.
Other than that, every married man I know hos told me not to do it.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by openeyes on Dec 22, 2005, 4:13pm
I know of two. One is my uncle, on his 4th marriage, this one having lasted for maybe 15 years thus far. It was too late to have kids, and both parties came in already wealthy. They’re both very active in various causes and spend a month hiking in the Himalayas every year plus their other vacations and volunteer work.
The other couple had kids and has been married nearly 30 years. It was the second marriage for both people, as mentioned in other posts. Both had first marriages from hell that would have given many people reason to never marry again. The advice from the man is to never marry anyone that needs to be saved. Overall both just feel very lucky at this point, while both also work like hell, the second couple having a home based business together.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by King Karan on Dec 22, 2005, 4:39pm
Now that I think of it, I actually do know one person that is happy in marriage! I am sure most of us can point to at least one couple that somehow manages to hold on and be happy (at least on the surface). The problem is that this one I am mentioning is out of several hundred people I know.
…Other than that, every married man I know hos told me not to do it…
At the expense of your listening to advice from strangers over the internet, let me add that you should think long and hard if you are inclined to marry. And if you have decided on marrying, certainly try your luck abroad before the feminist virus eats up the more traditional societies such as in Eastern Europe, or places like Costa Rica, Colombia, South Africa etc.
Just like in my statement above, there undoubtedly are some good women in the West to marry, but they are much, much more difficult to find, your chances to establish a relationship are slim, the cost of the process is huge (time, money and nerves), and the risks of all kinds are enormous! So the choice should be obvious! Just ask anyone who has been to Slovakia, Costa Rica, etc.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by A on Dec 22, 2005, 5:04pm
“At the expense of your listening to advice from strangers over the internet, let me add that you should think long and hard if you are inclined to marry. And if you have decided on marrying, certainly try your luck abroad before the feminist virus eats up the more traditional societies such as in Eastern Europe, or places like Costa Rica, Colombia, South Africa etc.
Just like in my statement above, there undoubtedly are some good women in the West to marry, but they are much, much more difficult to find, your chances to establish a relationship are slim, the cost of the process is huge (time, money and nerves), and the risks of all kinds are enormous! So the choice should be obvious! Just ask anyone who has been to Slovakia, Costa Rica, etc.”
Great advice.
For myself, my wife (a Filipina) and I live part time in the Philippines. There is no legal divorce in the Philippines. For the most part it is Christian (RC) and life is very traditional in the countryside. We live about 600 kms north of Manila (the capital and largest city).
When in the Philippines everyone around us has been married a long time; my mother-in-law over 50 years until my father-in-law passed away. My wife has great memories of her childhood and father, and the community is very tight. When in Canada we avoid TV and surround ourselves with like minded married couples whom travel back and forth. We plan to retire in the Philippines in a few years.
Getting married and staying in North America is VERY, VERY risky! Talk to men who are in their 50s and 60s for their life experiences and advice before getting married. I would have never, ever married anyone who was born (and wanted to stay) in Canada.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by 40smithandwesson on Dec 22, 2005, 5:15pm
Me, to a Colombian but it’s only been a year. Things are great, so much better than an American woman. I can’t even look at a American woman and not be disgusted. She treats me like a king and she is my queen. Cooks, Cleans, works outside the home, pretty, very passionate and has a great personality.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by Paul on Dec 22, 2005, 5:31pm
The earlier years sucked, but then, things got better. A lot better. Once I stopped putting up with her bad behavior, while learning to curb my own, things changed. She actually changed after she hit an emotional brick wall trying to be superwoman—-a self-imposed pressure she now admits to.
Don’t buy into any feminist lies. If you’re married, your woman wants you to be strong, and at times tell her to shut up and/or put your foot down and say NO. Ignoring her at the right times is good to. It’s when you try to be “too nice” or the other extreme, abusive, that you get into trouble.
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Re: Any happy marriages?
Post by Niall NLIT on Dec 23, 2005, 4:51am
The only one I thought I knew was OK if not happy was my brother. Married the girl next door and had kids young. Frankly we are not that close but we have spent some time together recently following our mothers death and us needing to sort out her affairs.
He told me things were OK but the passion died years ago and they are now basically just friends living in the same house and if he had his time again he would not marry and would not have children.
So I suppose the answer is no.
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