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A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by sayonara on Jan 13, 2006, 1:24pm

I came across this at the Feminism Is Evil Blog and the Eternal Bachelor Blog.

Mailvox: when TV is a mirror

A 30-something female lawyer writes in:

I just had to write you tonight because of your recent posts about 30 something women having trouble finding husbands. I happened to watch The Bachelor Paris tonight. It was the first show where the Bachelor sends home 13 women. What happened in this show was a very illuminating example of what you have written.

One of the women was Allie G., a 33 year old Oncologist. The Bachelor is a Doctor and it was obvious that Allie thought that she was a shoo-in, because what male doctor wouldn’t appreciate a female doctor? During the show, when the Bachelor meets and talks with the women, Allie told him that she was ready to reproduce because her eggs were getting old.

Needless to say, Allie didn’t get a rose. I knew she wasn’t going to take that lying down when I saw the look on her face. It was apparent that she was disgusted with the Bachelor’s choices (most of whom appear to be in their twenties). How dare he turn down a DOCTOR.

Sure enough, the next scenes show Allie out cussing and griping to the other women about how she’s tried internet dating, matchmaking services and everything else to try to find a husband. She bemoaned the fact that men didn’t want her. She expressed that she worked hard and focused on her career and that men should want her for that and that the Bachelor was like every other f*@#&ing male doctor she’s ever known. (In fact, every other word was bleeped at that point) It wasn’t FAIR that she couldn’t get a husband. Look at her credentials!

Then, she’s interviewed alone and she says basically the same kinds of things, including that she couldn’t believe that he picked the other women when he should have picked her, a doctor.

She then goes and confronts the Bachelor and demands that he tell her why he didn’t pick her. He explains that her comment about being ready to reproduce was the reason. She goes into attack mode telling him that he should be ready to reproduce and why wasn’t he ready. Of course, she doesn’t listen to his comment that he doesn’t put the cart before the horse.

She storms off and gripes to the other women about how he should be ready to reproduce because he is in his thirties.

The show ends with her going on and on in the same vein with a show staff member (male) who is trying to escape her onslaught.

This was truly pitiful and I felt really sorry for her in her desperation. She bought into the garbage that men should want women who put career first.

I bought into that too, so I understand her confusion and disbelief when men didn’t flock around her because she was the pretty, smart, successful doctor. That only happens in movies and on television. She, like many professional women, forgot to develop those attributes men are really looking for. I’m not sure what those are, but I know they aren’t the ones upon which doctors and lawyers focus.

I just had to write you about this, it was so in line with what you have been saying. I can’t write about it at my blog because I’m afraid my parents will see it and think that I am talking about myself. Maybe you could write about it.

(And yes, I realize that The Bachelor is a very silly show)

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Vox:
And I now know far more about The Bachelor than I’d ever dreamed… I had no idea it was still being televised. I do find her description of the oncologist’s reaction to be more than a little amusing, though. “I’ve done everything I’m supposed to, now I’m entitled to True Love and on my schedule, $*(%%&!”

It’s never pretty when reality intrudes upon fantasy.

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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by Big Johnson on Jan 13, 2006, 1:32pm

Yeah I saw that too. I liked the comment someone made about how we men are not interested in a woman’s resume or career goals when we are looking for marriage material. Some women just don’t get that.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by sayonara on Jan 13, 2006, 1:39pm

I thought this was good post as well

So much for that college degree

Sam Blumenfeld notes how worthless the pieces of paper have become:

Stunned, shocked and appalled are American educators as they study the recent report from the National Center of Education Statistics, which reveals that only 31 percent of college graduates can read a complex book and extrapolate from it. “It’s really astounding,” said Michael Gorman, president of the American Library Association. “That’s not saying much for the remainder,” he added, meaning that 69 percent of our college graduates cannot read at or above a “proficient” level.

Absolutely appalled by the results of the survey was Mark S. Schneider, commissioner of education statistics, who remarked, “The declining impact of education on our adult population was the biggest surprise for us, and we just don’t have a good explanation. What’s disturbing is that the assessment is not designed to test your understanding of Proust, but to test your ability to read labels.”

The Boston Globe (Dec. 26, 2005) explained that the test measured how well adults handled basic reading tasks – such as figuring out costs per ounce of food items, comparing viewpoints on two editorials, and reading prescription labels. Of graduate students tested in 2003, 41 percent were classified as “proficient” in prose – able to read and understand information in short texts – down 10 percent since 1992. As for college graduates, only 31 percent were classified as proficient – compared with 40 percent in 1992.

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Vox:
I think it makes a tremendous amount of sense to go into debt in order to attend a place that will give you a degree that doesn’t even guarantee you can read. At this point, not going to college is a sign of intelligence… and no, that’s not sour grapes, I have a degree from a university that is supposedly better than most. I’ve yet to see any real value from it, although my admittedly snazzy ring has led some to mistakenly believe that I’ve actually won a fantasy football championship, so I’ve got that going for me. (Yes, the alumni-hitter-uppers just LOVE talking to me… they haven’t even bothered sending me a letter, much less giving me a call, in years now.)

Men might as well let women have the universities, they’re going to be completely useless in another twenty years. Are they going to be pissed when they learn how little good it will do them, or what?

“Why don’t you want to take me out?”
“I don’t know, probably your appeal rates around the level of a decomposing rhinoceros carcass. No offense.”
“But I have three doctoral degrees!”
“Yes, and I have more than three pieces of paper in this book right here! Perhaps with all those degrees you can tell me if any man in the recorded history of Man has ever thought ‘She’s nice and she’s beautiful, but if only she was a surgeon, she’d be perfect’?”
“You’re just afraid of a strong, independent woman!”
“You know, I suspect I may have overrated your appeal.”

Any four-year old child who is not mentally retarded can learn how to read in a matter of months. This destructive transformation of education into maleducation is not mere happenstance.

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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by mikeash on Jan 13, 2006, 2:05pm

I would have told her that I was only attracted to feminine women, and now that she had shown her confrontational nature, it was clearly a wise decision.

Women have no clue what men want, nor do they care.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by antiriad on Jan 13, 2006, 2:18pm

Jan 13, 2006, 1:32pm, Big Johnson wrote:Yeah I saw that too. I liked the comment someone made about how we men are not interested in a woman’s resume or career goals when we are looking for marriage material. Some women just don’t get that.

Women seem to think that listening to butch, man-hating lesbians for advice on how to attract men is preferable to getting this advice from men directly. After all, asking men for advice would be showing weakness and we just can’t have that. Women prefer to stew in their misery instead of trying to act human for a change. They can thank feminists for this trait which they inherited from them.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by VirginiaBob on Jan 13, 2006, 2:23pm

I think the author is missing the point. Some people don’t go to college to become experts in “prose fiction”, but are more interested in inventing the next technology. So if you test all graduates on how well they read fiction, the only people that will test well are the students that specifically studied fiction.

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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by logic101 on Jan 13, 2006, 6:55pm

I was just breaking down the responses/statements from the 30 year old lawyer talking about Allie G….the 33 year old Oncologist on The Bachelor. The truth is not always kind. Apparently Allie just got an overdose.

Jan 13, 2006, 1:24pm, sayonara wrote:She storms off and gripes to the other women about how he should be ready to reproduce because he is in his thirties.

Oh man! talk about not knowing how the power structure shifts as a single woman gets older. She doesn’t even realize that she screwed herself by believing a lie. Single men have more options as they get older in this realm. Especially well to do men.

Jan 13, 2006, 1:24pm, sayonara wrote:
This was truly pitiful and I felt really sorry for her in her desperation. She bought into the garbage that men should want women who put career first.

Why feel sorry for her? Honestly, she’s a grown woman who believed the lies. It is her fault. Let her be “A REAL WOMAN/ADULT” and deal with it just like men have been made to ‘deal with everything’ in our anti-family/anti-father/pro-feminized western society. But don’t worry….. if she stays in the western world they’ll always be a sucker to take on this ‘challenge’.

Jan 13, 2006, 1:24pm, sayonara wrote:It’s never pretty when reality intrudes upon fantasy.

No kidding. Time for a certain female to grown up and get that thumb out of her mouth.

Logic 101

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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by travis on Jan 13, 2006, 8:13pm

Jan 13, 2006, 1:24pm, sayonara wrote:A 30-something female lawyer writes in:

Quote:Sure enough, the next scenes show Allie out cussing and griping to the other women about how she’s tried internet dating, matchmaking services and everything else to try to find a husband. She bemoaned the fact that men didn’t want her. She expressed that she worked hard and focused on her career and that men should want her for that and that the Bachelor was like every other f*@#&ing male doctor she’s ever known. (In fact, every other word was bleeped at that point) It wasn’t FAIR that she couldn’t get a husband. Look at her credentials!

You’re overqualified, cunt. Sleep in the bed you made.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by GuestWill on Jan 13, 2006, 8:45pm

Poor Ms. Doctor,

She wanted the career, the title, to save the world, bla, bla, bla.

I know a woman in her mid 30s who is in the same boath. She is a Doctor and she really thinks she can have it all. She doesn’t get it……guys want young women. It’s primitive…it’s our nature. We like younger women.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by Shajenko on Jan 14, 2006, 1:46am

Jan 13, 2006, 6:55pm, logic101 wrote:Why feel sorry for her? Honestly, she’s a grown woman who believed the lies. It is her fault.

Wow, that doesn’t make sense. Tons of us here got conned by society telling us that being respectable and decent human beings would pay off. It’s part of the reason sites like these even exist.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by Chris S on Jan 14, 2006, 2:13am

Sure it makes sense, because at her AGE, if things are not working out as you had expected, as an intelligent human being, YOU (she) are capable of looking into YOURSELF for answers, and excepting responsibility for her station in life. And Not blaming everyone else.
Chris S.
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by GuestWill on Jan 14, 2006, 4:48am

Jan 14, 2006, 1:46am, Shajenko wrote:
Jan 13, 2006, 6:55pm, logic101 wrote:Why feel sorry for her? Honestly, she’s a grown woman who believed the lies. It is her fault.

Wow, that doesn’t make sense. Tons of us here got conned by society telling us that being respectable and decent human beings would pay off. It’s part of the reason sites like these even exist.

And who perpetuates the myths that

a) Men are supposed to treat women with respect (MOMS?).

b) Women should be able to have it all (career, love, then kids once they want to be mommie) – the feminists.

So let’s see here. Our mothers never teach us the truth about what women really want (probably because they don’t want their sons to look at them and say….”Mom, you’re crazy…..I am supposed to be all that for a woman?…How long do you expect to be married to dad”?
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Re: A 30-something female lawyer writes in …
Post by logic101 on Jan 14, 2006, 1:05pm

Jan 14, 2006, 2:13am, Chris S wrote:Sure it makes sense, because at her AGE, if things are not working out as you had expected, as an intelligent human being, YOU (she) are capable of looking into YOURSELF for answers, and excepting responsibility for her station in life. And Not blaming everyone else.
Chris S.

Exactly. This is what separates mature adults from children.

-Logic 101
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June 6, 2007 at 11:55 am

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  1. Men are supposed to treat women with respect.

    Women should be able to have it all (career, love, then kids once they want to be mommie.

    women should allow their qualification to get into their head when it comes to deal with their husband or partner.

    please connect me to a female lawyer who is ready for marriage.

    IGNATIUS

    December 17, 2010 at 12:50 pm


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