The single best thing about staying single…
The single best thing about staying single…
Post by thechief on Sept 29, 2005, 11:15am
…let’s hear it. From everybody.
Put some thought into it and write out the thing you like most about not being married. Don’t just throw out “Because I don’t have to live with an Ameriskank” or something like that. Really think about it. Describe, in as much detail as you can, what you like about the unmarried lifestyle.
The purpose of the exercise is to do something I don’t think we do enough: Promote the joys of being free and single instead of just decrying the horrors of marriage and divorce.
I’ll go first…
I think, at this point at least, the thing I like most about being single is the fact that my money is my own and I don’t have to consult anybody else on how I earn, spend, save or invest it. New stock or mutual fund I want to get into? I just do it. New gun I want? I buy it. Do I want to splurge on an expensive meal at a new restaurant? If it’s within my budget, I go for it. I plan to trade in my car after the first of the year, and you can be sure it’ll be a car that I like instead of a car that I and somebody else can live with. Next month is my birthday. As a present to myself I’m going to spend the weekend in St. Louis, have a little wicked fun and attend J.R.’s concealed carry course (if he ever gets the dates for October added to his site…hint hint, John). This sort of thing would have been impossible during my marriage.
The bottom line is that I’m really enjoying no longer being accountable to anybody else about what I do with my money. After 15 years of a marriage that was tolerable at the best of times and tortuous at the worst, you cannot believe how great it feels. It’s why, if I ever do remarry, we’ll definitely have separate bank accounts. It’s also one reason I doubt I’ll ever remarry at all.
Next?
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Snakey on Sept 29, 2005, 11:38am
Not being established with a woman, settled into life so to speak, makes me keep myself in better physical shape, as though still attuned to being “on the hunt”, whether I’m actually looking or not. So many men let themselves go once they’ve sentenced themselves to life with a particular woman.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by CuriePoint on Sept 29, 2005, 11:43am
What do I like best about not being married?
No In-laws!!!
I never ever have to worry about a parade of convicted (or near-convicted) felons and druggies parading through the house and dragging their stank girlfriends or wives with them. I don’t have to be cordial to low-life pond scum because they are “family” now. If I want to spend $3000 on a new guitar, I can…without the disapproving glares and verbal assaults that invariably come from such a frivolous expenditure. Yeah, right…like the money spent on Waterford Crystal that basically serves the same function as a Dixie cup?
No feminista mother-in-law, with whom I have to endure rants as to why her daughter deserves far better than she gets…and when I do somehow blunder onto doing something that meets with her approval, I am told that her daughter has got me “trained real good”.
I am not forced nor cajoled nor blackmailed into accepting, embracing, and loving a bunch of people that I would run over with my car if not for the bullshit attachment to me via a gross injustice such as marriage.
I can bar the door to my domicile to anyone I don’t deem worthy of entry. I am not compelled to observe bullshit holidays, nor endure chintzy holiday decorations in further observance thereof.
I can feed my scopophilic tendencies on the big TV in the living room and wank like a retarded monkey on the couch if I want. I can bring home escorts and have them indulge my monkey-ness, and then give them the boot.
I can wash whites with colors.
I can eat canned Hormel Chili six day a week.
I can cook a huge, gourmet meal and share it with my cats.
Hour after glorious hour spent in my recording studio, and nary a whinge about “we never do anything together”.
No hosting of her best friend who whinges on and on about the two-time felon she fucked and was consummately dumped by.
…and I can fuck her too if I want.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Yet Another Guest on Sept 29, 2005, 11:48am
Chief, you said what I thought of first, but I can think of one more:
Your TIME is your own and you don’t have to consult anybody else on what you do with it. In fact, as John Ross put it in one of his article, after your health, your most important asset is time. A married guy’s time is not his own. He has to work 40-60 hour weeks to support a family, do a bunch of chores when he gets home, be dragged along with his wife to go shopping or see a chick flick, and hang around family members whom he’d rather not.
I want to spend 12 hours at work to get a project done? I do it. I want to spend a weekend just chilling out and doing nothing? I do it. I want to go to a gun show or a car show? I just go. I want to sleep in on Saturday morning? I do it. No “honey-do” lists that never seem to end. I can maintain my place as I see fit (within reason) and my chores are minimal.
In short, I’m only accountable to me with what I do with my time.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Snakey on Sept 29, 2005, 11:48am
Quote:What do I like best about not being married?
No In-laws!!!
I hear that. My poor married bastard brother spends every holiday on tours of duty putting in appearances at relatives of the bride. Hasn’t had a Christmas in his own house since he tied the knot. Every other weekend is sacrificed in a similar way, hanging around the homes of people he barely knows, so wifey can show him off to the other women in the family. I get depressed just hearing about it.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Mr Hindsight on Sept 29, 2005, 12:01pm
Freedom!
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Lee on Sept 29, 2005, 1:04pm
The best part of staying single is being able to get what I want done when I want it done.
If I chose to take a career enhancing class, no one is going to complain that I am not spending enough time or money on them.
If I want to go to Vegas, I can take a cheap flight, stay in a classic Fremont Hotel for $30 a night, and stay the entire weekend for well under $250. If I went with a woman, the escalating demands for a ‘good time’ and ‘a nice hotel’ would quickly raise the costs for a 2-3 day trip to $1,200 – $1,800. No thank you.
I enjoy my own company, and like to spend large amounts of time alone.
When I live with a woman, I quickly bristle under the constant surveillance. I enjoy companionship, just not 24-7-365 monitoring.
If I want to splurge $595 for a GPS unit/any other new toy, no one complains that it is not something I can afford.
These are a few of my favorite things (about being single).
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by chrisw79 on Sept 29, 2005, 1:20pm
My parents were 20 and 21, Dad and Mom respectively, when they were married. After I hit 21, they were on me like flies on shit about getting married, or at least dating. Dad eased off faster about it, devolving into the occasional joke which doesn’t bother me. Mom harps on me from time to time.
My parents have 6 kids, of which I’m the eldest. The next one down, my 24-year-old sister, is an exercise in dysfunction. Two kids by two different guys, had three boyfriends afterward, the most recent of which pulled a gun on her during an argument. Her entitlement mentality is so prevalent it extends to her family. She has threatened to take her kids away from our parents if they don’t do what she wants. She has smashed PC equipment belonging to me because I wouldn’t drop whatever I was doing because she wanted something. She has two younger sisters, 21 and 16. The 21-year-old claims to be christian, and screws her boyfriend at the boat ramp in Dad’s truck. The 16-year-old acts like a butch lesbian.
My father is the only man in his family – his father is dead, and he had only sisters. They bitch and subtly drive daggers into each other every time there’s a gathering (which Grandma loves to do, because she’s totally neurotic about cooking). The resentment is so strong that some aunts refused to help financially during a horrible court case (which I’ve expounded somewhat on previously) “because he teased me!”
Why date? I get plenty of emotional bullshit from my family!
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by A Man on Sept 29, 2005, 1:22pm
Sept 29, 2005, 11:48am, Snakey wrote:
I Every other weekend is sacrificed in a similar way, hanging around the homes of people he barely knows, so wifey can show him off to the other women in the family. I get depressed just hearing about it.
Man, that’s one of the things I’m SO thankful I don’t have to deal with!
You all pretty much covered the gist of it for me. Basically just being able to come & go as I please without having to get permission from anyone.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by John Ross on Sept 29, 2005, 1:23pm
YAG beat me to it: Time.
Lots of single guys make the mistake of thinking that when they get married, their wives will make them MORE productive by doing the little things that will let them focus their time and energies on those things that bring in the most return. They think a wife will see that picking up the cleaning, cooking meals, doing the wash, and getting the groceries is a trivial amount of work in exchange for free housing, free food, free utilities, and a couple thousand a month in spending money.
WRONG. The reality is one of “ratcheting up.” The wife wants an ever-increasing list of perks. And the biggest drain is on your time. When she wants to visit her mother for the weekend, and expects you to come with her, you have just killed 2 1/2 DAYS. A woman who earns nothing has no concept of the value of 2 1/2 days to a productive man.
Perhaps the greatest extravagance a wife can indulge in is a money-losing business. You will feel the obligation to try to make this venture work, and throw your time, energy, and money into it, along with doing what earns the money that keeps everything afloat.
For the first 33 years of my life, I felt affluent. I had more income than expenses. My assets and net worth went up every month. I never had any debt until I bought my house in 1981. I borrowed $80,000 at a floating rate, interest-only level 1/2% above prime, 14% in 1981.
Paying interest was like giving blood. I paid off the entire balance in less than 2 years. My assets and net worth continued to climb. Most importantly, I had what I wanted. Through a mutual friend, I met a man in Colorado worth a bit less than 1 billion dollars. Afterward, my friend asked “Don’t you feel poor when you’re around him?”
“Just the opposite,” I said. “I feel sorry for him. He doesn’t own a single machine gun, and his airplane’s not even aerobatic.” (He had a $2 million Gulfstream bizjet. I had a $17,000 Citabria acro trainer, and about 30 MGs.)
That feeling of abundance ended when I got back from my honeymoon. It has just now started to return, 15 years later, after the alimony ended, I got the divorce loan almost paid off, and my new shooting school has been growing steadily.
When I was married, I spent my non-office time:
Visiting my in-laws
Going to functions I didn’t want to
Assisting at my wife’s money-losing children’s theater
Remodeling the house (unending project)
Paying for things I didn’t want
Writing
Wishing my wife would not be so unhappy
Wishing I was having sex
Now, I spend my non-office time:
With my friends
Shooting
Flying
Writing
Teaching
Flirting with every woman that interests me
Having sex
Traveling to places I want whenever I make time
I like the second list a lot better.
JR
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by chrisw79 on Sept 29, 2005, 1:24pm
…And through all that, I completely forgot to respond to the original remark! Sorry.
Best thing about being single for me? Aside from the lack of emotional bullshit above-cited, I’d say it’s the fact that being single affords me the ability to refuse social interaction. I don’t like being in crowds, for obvious reasons. I don’t usually like going to parties or social events, because you’re obligated to make nice, cover up the truth, and flirt. I’m bad at flirting, I like truth instead of comforting lies, and if someone’s acting like a jackass, why should I spend time around them?
As a single man, I can go to what I want, and leave when I want. If I want to stay home all day? Great. I want to go see a horror movie? I don’t have a girl in my ear shrieking, “But I don’t LIIIIIKE horror movies! They’re scary!” (My first ex actually said things like that.)
So, social interaction on my terms, no extra emotional BS…works for me!
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by thechief on Sept 29, 2005, 1:54pm
CuriePoint, I’m with you on the in-laws. I never cared much for my in-laws, and they never cared much for me. To be fair, this wasn’t entirely their fault or mine. Part of it was the way my wife poisoned any relationship I might have had with them by getting on the phone and bitching to them about me every time we had a fight. “But I always give both sides of the argument,” she tried to tell me once. Yeah, right.
She also had a sister who was utterly worthless human debris. A classic “welfare queen,” raising two kids by two different fathers. Totally lazy and irresponsible, wouldn’t hold a job, actually had horrific hygiene and smelled like a mule dead three days, completely useless. And my wife kept moving her into our house periodically, trying to rescue her and the kids.
Remarkably, it never did any good. She never cleaned up her act (literally or figuratively), never took any responsibility for her actions. You could give her $50 and next month she would need $50 again for the exact same reason. I tried to point this out to my wife, it went in one ear and out the other. Last I heard she had gone on Social Security Disability. Which means I’m still supporting her, and so are all of you (if you live and pay taxes in America, anyway).
For any lurkers out there still considering marriage, remember—you marry her, you marry her family. Ask yourself if that’s an albatross you really want to carry.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by openeyes on Sept 29, 2005, 1:59pm
I took a good friend skydiving last year, and he absolutely loved it, though he had to make sure not to tell his fiance about it until afterward since she would immediately do what she could to stop him. I have no such problems, and hence can jump out of planes or do any other extreme sport I care for, and not be impeded by anything except my wallet and my time. Oh yeah, he’s now free of the fiance
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by sirlancelot on Sept 29, 2005, 2:00pm
I like the way no woman has access to my earnings.
I may not be earning a fortune (yet) but at least what I do earn is mine. If I check my balance and its a bit less than I thought, at least I know it’ll just be that I forgot I’d taken some cash out the day before or something, rather than having to think “Shit, what’s she taken out of our joint-account now?!”
Knowing the marriage strike is annoying women is great too. We’ve had to put up with several decades of feminism, of being denigrated and insulted in the media, of putting up with teachers and lecturers who give priority to females, of overhearing women declare “Men are such slobs/idiots/bastards/etc” and a society generally regarding us as just wallets and sperm-doners. Therefore its great fun to know that, in staying single or perhaps emigrating and marrying a non-Western woman, means that modern Western Women are going to get exactly what their behaviour deserves; our absence and their lifelong spinsterhood.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Simpson on Sept 29, 2005, 2:29pm
Being single has it’s benefits. Mine have been in adventure. Real adventure that they write about in books.
I have stood on top of the highest mountain in the world. I was there in support of another man who climbed the peak without oxygen. After we summited, a storm blew in and several books were written about the aftermath.
I have been to Antarctica. Stayed there awhile. Did you know that you can see a man standing on the ice 45 miles away? I can tow a hundred pound sled and still talk your ear off, even on a bad day.
Yosemite, the Cascades, Alaska, South America, and the dinky hill out back behind my shop. Been there, done that. I’ve lived in a man’s world, doing manly things. My work has been manly, too. I am the guy in charge who makes it happen. I am blessed.
I am 48 years old, and if I die tomorrow my life will have been worth every minute. It is a bummer that I never had kids, but it is a blessing that I am not visiting them on weekends.
Like JR, I’ve had maybe 8 girlfriends in my life; I wanted to be myself in a relationship, and they couldn’t accept it, they always wanted to change me. So what is a man to do? Hoist up that pack, we got some climbing to do.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by skeptos on Sept 29, 2005, 2:41pm
I like having the general freedom to live my life according to my own wants and needs, and not having to take those of someone else into account. I can change jobs, or even careers, if I get bored in my current one. I can move to another state or country if I get the urge to expand my horizons. I can take a skydiving class or buy a plasma TV without having to ask someone else’s permission. I can spend ten hours on a Saturday playing a computer game without someone complaining that I’m not paying enough attention to them. I can get drunk and blow $300 in a strip club and not have someone give me the silent treatment for the next two weeks.
I like being able to be selfish, in other words. I don’t think it’s necessarily a healthy thing to be totally selfish for your entire life, and I’d still like to get married and have kids one day — provided that I meet a woman worth marrying, and there ain’t too many of those these days — but given that life is short and youth is even shorter, I want to make the most of of my own dreams and potential while I can.
Skeptos
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Yet Another Guest on Sept 29, 2005, 2:44pm
JR, thanks for your acknowledgment. It looks like I’m catching on and that great minds think alike.
I also liked how you went into more detail than my explanation did and I used to think that having someone around to help out around the house would save me time and money…apparently not.
There’s another issue – spending time with in-laws makes minutes seem like hours.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by ddg on Sept 29, 2005, 4:50pm
The best thing about being single? Freedom. Total, complete, unadulterated freedom. I especially enjoy Sunday mornings: that’s when I perform weekly maintenance on my PC, play computer games, and generally laze around my pad.
Back in February I spent $1,700 dollars upgrading my PC. I used my tax refund and paid for all the components outright (no credit cards) with my bank card. And damn did it feel good!! Not only did I get every single part I wanted but I didn’t have some woman nagging me about irresponsibility. I still get a warm fuzzy thinking about it …
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by sirlancelot on Sept 29, 2005, 5:05pm
Freedom seems to be the number one choice here.
I’m going round to a friend’s tomorrow. There’ll be about five of us, having a few beers, playing cards, smoking some cigars and talking loudly and self-righteously about what is wrong with the world today (women and liberals usually get blamed.)
Two of our friends are unable to join us because, unlike the rest of us, they’re married. One has to visit his in-laws (who he hates) with his wife, and the other has been nagged into staying in at the weekend because his wife got sick of him going out “all the time” (i.e. once a week.) So he has to stay at home watching soap operas with her.
Fools.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by khankrumthebulgar on Sept 29, 2005, 5:08pm
In my first marriage one day in the 17th year just before my First Divorce I came home and said “The Complaint department is now open”. It was half way serious that I said it. I hated being an emotional tampon or the sympathetic ear to a never ending stream of complaints about Bull Shit. I just got tired of it. In the 5th year of my second marriage I finally quit trying to pretend that I gave a damn. Since by that time we had already been celibate for 3 years. Zero no intimacy at all, nada, zip.
We had a code word for When I would go off. I called it “Going Cave”. It meant I was going off for time alone and I was not interested in what she wanted. She started to object. No longer a Prison emotionally, and No Warden to answer to. Refuse to go back to one.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Evergreen on Sept 29, 2005, 7:22pm
I haven’t been married yet but I always like the idea of being free to do whatever I want. If I want to go away in the weekend to the countryside to go fishing, then I go. If I want to visit another country and its within my time and budget, then I go without having to consult with anybody. I can stay out late, hang out with friends all weekend, flirt with any girls I want, basicially anything I want to do with my own free time.
Also, I hate to be force to do what I don’t want to like visiting annoying in-laws, or dealing with some loser brother or sister in-law who wants to crash at your couch for a few nights or whatever their demands.
Finally, I don’t get nagged or have my money taken just so she can buy worthless things in the local mall or even go with her to the mall to see that. I also don’t have to face getting divorce or having children who won’t see the father often since the ex-wife would likely get sole custody of the children not to mention losing the family home to her, lose half of my assets, pay alimony and child support. Having children is not a big thing for me and it be much less stress in my life without them.
I know I will always stay single if I live in any Westernized country or even stay single forever and happy.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by playerintraining on Sept 30, 2005, 1:59am
Most of the other men mentioned the main benefit of being single–freedom. I suppose the biggest benefit of not being attached, for me, is related to that.
The best thing about being single is having the ability to take calculated financial risks, in the effort to attain greater financial freedom.
A single man can quit his job, and start his own business, without feeling guilty that he isn’t providing for the family. Or, he can work at a job that provides more flexibility to do what HE wants to do. Flying solo means a man can focus his attention on what pleases him, instead of what will please the her. He can do this without worrying about feeling guilty.
All too often, it seems anything that displeases her man, is something a woman will find most desirable.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Grunt on Sept 30, 2005, 5:09am
What kind if nitwit gauges all women by the standards of the western female?
Go read www.nomarriage.com then continue your propaganda efforts elsewhere.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Evergreen on Sept 30, 2005, 5:50am
Grant, we say whatever we want about women and especially Western Women for sure. If you don’t like it, then TOUGH!
Again, I will say freedom away from living with a Western Woman is the best thing in my life . Nowadays many Western Women believe in modern feminazi crap and princess attitude. I’ll do whatever I want without them.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by upklhd on Sept 30, 2005, 9:26am
I have to say, I agree with each and every one of you gentlemen. As a single woman, I enjoy having my own free time, having my own money, no debts no drama, not having to deal with or take care of someone else’s family, go where I want, when I want. If I want to take personal time off in conjunction with business travel to explore the area…I can.
In fact, Chief and JR, I was up in your neck of the woods not too long ago. I never knew Missouri was such a wine and vineyard mecca; I had a great time. In the coming months, I’ll be traveling to Okinawa and Hawaii; I can’t wait.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by thechief on Sept 30, 2005, 9:34am
Yeah, Missouri’s a great state, one of the best kept secrets in the union, IMHO. Did you get to Herrmann? I used to work for Stone Hill Winery several years ago. And hit Osage Beach the next time your through…it’s Branson without the chintz. Beautiful lake resort, with great golfing if you’re into that.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by dataguy on Sept 30, 2005, 4:05pm
For me it’s the little things. I think there are certain little advantages in being single that I generally take for granted except at certain moments.
A few weeks back, I drove down to my local Borders on a weekend afternoon to spend a couple of hours looking over the newest computer books (which, by the way, just happens to be one of my very favorite pastimes). As I was parking, I noticed that, a couple of lanes across from me, there were three guys, all about my age, getting out of a van (not a car, not a truck, not an SUV, but a *van*). They all had their small kids in tow, and they all looked like their wives had picked out their clothes for them at the same Abercrombie store. The wives had clearly dumped the kids on the husbands for the day.
And as they were breaking out the giant tandem strollers and the shoulder bags full of what must have been enough baby supplies to last through a Cat5 hurricane, I found myself thinking, “You know, I am about to go into that bookstore and spend the afternoon doing exactly what I feel like doing with my time. I’d be willing to bet a good steak dinner that none of these three guys can even remember the last time they got to do anything like that.”
It’s moments like those when I find myself appreciating how nice it is to be able to just do something without having to stop and spend 17 hours “discussing” it or asking permission, which is a degree of freedom that’s really easy to take for granted until you don’t have it anymore.
And PS I want give a big shout out and ditto to so many of the other comments in this thread, particularly from CuriePoint, YetAnotherGuest (who said what I just said except better), and Lee (BTW, Lee, check the web site for the LV Hilton; there are several weeks each year where you can get a room for only $59 per night; yeah, it’s more than $30, but it’s also several orders of magnitude nicer than the Fremont *and* it’s got a Monorail station, so it’s virtually like being right on the strip! I go there at least twice a year.)
I’ll add one comment to the “in-laws” tangent. How frequently do you really hear about a woman being caught in the middle of a constant, ongoing battle of wills between her husband and her father, or her father and her father-in-law? Unless there’s really a lot of money involved, it almost never happens.
On the other hand, how frequently do you hear about a guy being caught in the middle of a constant, ongoing battle of wills between his wife and his mother? Or his mother and his mother-in-law? That situation is so common that it’s actually more unusual for it to not be the case.
From the moment a guy gets married (actually, from the moment he gets engaged), his life goes from being just barely manageable to being completely out of his grasp. That’s because now, instead of only having to deal with one woman (namely, his mother) who expects everything in the universe that intersects with her life to adjust itself to accommodate her feelings, now, his life is completely triangulated by three women (his wife, his mother, and his mother-in-law), each of whom expects everything in the universe that intersects with her life to adjust itself to accommodate her feelings.
When those three women are in perfect harmony with each other, the guy’s life is at least reasonably tranquil. To be sure, it’s not his to direct or control by any stretch of the imagination, but at least it’s reasonably tranquil. But the moment that any one of those three women decides that her feelings are not being adequately taken into consideration, that guy’s life becomes a miserable living hell.
Reason #6549875981.23 on my list of reasons why I’m really glad I never married.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Optimusprime on Sept 30, 2005, 4:25pm
I think it is funny that women want to get married and have kids… only to then dump the responsibility of caring for them on the man… very sad. I like freedom, I don’t have to put up with mind games and woman crap:-)
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by thechief on Sept 30, 2005, 4:34pm
“Permission” is a big issue. Back in February a buddy and I went to the best strip club either of us have ever been to, in Memphis. He considered telling his wife a big lie about where we were going beforehand but ultimately decided just to tell her the truth. She took it pretty well but he did expect to pay for it in some way later. “Anything you say or do can and will be held against you in a state of marriage, ” he joked.
Anyway, we went to Memphis, ate some great barbecue and had an awesome time at the club. On the way back we were sharing stories (we got separated in there for a while, when I had quite an adventure in the lap dance area) when his cell phone rang. It was his wife. It was alternately hilarious/tragic listening to his end of the conversation. “Yes, honey…yeah, I guess it was OK…yeah, but I remember now why I don’t like those places…the loud music, the smoke filled air….yeah, I think I spent X dollars (a lie, more on that in a moment)….we’ll be home soon. Love you.” It was the most pussified thing I’ve ever heard in my life. And if I were still married and got such a call, I probably would have done the same thing.
Once we got back, he started the “creative bookkeeping.” She keeps the checkbook so he had to have an accounting of the money he spent. He calculated telling her that he spent X amount on gas (we took my car), X amount on lunch (which I brought), etc, etc. I ended up lending him $100, which he still hasn’t found a way to get back to me. I don’t mind. The man clearly has enough problems, I’m not going to bust his balls over a Ben Franklin.
The asking the permission, the accounting for your whereabouts and the money you spend…avoid it, fellas.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by The Author on Sept 30, 2005, 5:58pm
Dataguy,
“Orders of magnitude”
….Floating point precision in your reason #.
Cost benefit optimization ($30 vs $50)
Triple Venn diagram / intersections of feelings.
You’ve picked a very apropos nickname !
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by erich on Sept 30, 2005, 7:58pm
Weelll how much time do we have?
I don’t think it is fair to ask what is the single best thing because there are too many things I like about not being a married fool and slave to economic debt, but since you asked..
Freedom To come and go as I please, without having to answer to some nagging hag about my whereabouts. Ah, it is so nice to go down to the sports bar on Sundays and watch football ALL day.
Time Has a connection to what’s stated above. It’s spent the way I want it. So there is the reduced stress factor going on here. Men in shackles are on a timeclock constantly.
Quality Of Life Yeah baby. I agree with new statistics that say a man who is married doesn’t necessarily live longer or is healthier than his single counterpart. Maybe that was the case many generations ago, but with the current standard of predatory female available in these modern times, the drain and stress is insurmountable. My life is stress free, drama free and fun. No high maintenance bitch dragging me down.
Financial Freedom This doesn’t mean that I spend with reckless abandon, it actually means that I live within my economic means, responsibly. Hell yes I do buy things that I like, for instance the new bad ass sports that recently came into my life, boy she is such a sweet girl, my pride and joy. But my spending is monitored so as not to put myself in a disadvantaged position in life. “I” like to be the master of my own destiny, although God is the ultimate in that regard.
Sex Yes, I still have it, unlike many of the married guys who go through long stretches of time without it. It’s nice not having to deal with a legal prostitute in my life who uses her pussy as a commodity. Let me make myself abundantly clear. I believe that sex is not the most important attribute in a relationship, but in a good healthy and functional relationship, a good sex life is important. But when one party uses sex as a weapon, you will have a dysfunctional relationship.
My maleness Is still intact and that’s the way I like it. How many married guys have you seen the minute they get married act like they just put their balls on a chopping block and got them lopped off? Lost count huh?
My Home My abode, my castle. Is mine. I worked my ass off for the huge down payment, I’ve made all the mortgage payments all these years. My payments are so low it’s ridiculous. But it’s my safety valve. If I were to ever lose my job and some reason had to take a lower paying job, it would not be a problem whatsoever in making the payments. It is a nice feeling knowing I’ll never be on the streets. That is of course unless I had the combustionable mixture of some western bitch and a corrupt divorce court judge. I could be saying bye bye to MY house.
I find it quite amusing when I hear of WW saying they they like being single as well. Listen ladies what you say and what you do are to different things. You know that your biological timeclock is ticking and the sands of time work clearly against you. But since you have got everything all fucked up now, enjoy your singleness and your kitty.
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Re: The single best thing about staying single…
Post by Optimusprime on Oct 1, 2005, 3:19am
You should pay off the house as soon as possible, that way it is all yours and cannot be repossessed, and also interest rates do change… Sex? Do you go to prostitutes or just pick up some chick for a one-night stand? How do you know which ones will put out? You seem to have it all worked out, hopefully, I’ll be like you in a few years.
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