Finding Your Soulmate?
Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Live Love Laugh on Dec 4, 2005, 5:22pm
Here’s some of my dating escapades …. first a little background. I’m newly single, have three teen aged daughters, just divorced in September, a 44 year-old female. I was married for 17 years. It was a good run, for the most part, but there was just something missing, you know? As they say, you only live once, so there is no reason to stay in a relationship where your needs are not being fulfilled. We will all die some day, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life thinking “what if?”.
I’ve had a profile up on Match for just over a year … I have to say it’s been a *very* frustrating experience. I guess what they say is true, you have to kiss *a LOT* of frogs before you meet your prince. I mostly date men within my age range (31 to 46), but it’s hard to find a man who has the maturity to match his age. I meet men who expect sex on the first date, men who can’t seem to get over their exes, men who are in their 40s and have NEVER even been married (WTF???), men who are newly divorced and are trying to relive their 20s, men who don’t even know what a “portfolio” is, much less even have one, men who are “between jobs” or underemployed, on and on this goes.
What’s really disturbing is the number of divorced men I meet who seem to hate their ex-wives with a passion. To me this is a HUGE red flag. If a man lacks the maturity to move on from a divorce without becoming bitter, then so far as I’m concerned he is not relationship material. I’m a mature adult and I have moved on from my divorce, from day ONE, and I expect the same from a potential partner. Here’s some dating advice guys: there is nothing that is more unattractive and off-putting to a woman like me than a man who has a “poor little me, my ex screwed me over, that bitch” kind of attitude. But the sad thing is it seems like a lot of the men I meet have that very attitude.
I’m about ready to give up on the online dating game, maybe there’s more quality men in other places, I don’t know. I’m thinking about trying Eharmony.com, it’s service seems to be more oriented to forming lasting relationships between soulmates. I’m tempted to join my church’s singles group, but from what I’ve heard from other single women at church is that the pickings are very slim there too. But, I guess you can’t meet your soulmate overnight, it takes time. Time and patience. But I know with all my heart that there is some good man out there who was put here just for me …
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by antiriad on Dec 4, 2005, 6:01pm
Quote:But I know with all my heart that there is some good man out there who was put here just for me …
The entitlement attitude never ends.
Quote:As they say, you only live once, so there is no reason to stay in a relationship where your needs are not being fulfilled. We will all die some day, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life thinking “what if?”.
Here’s a new phrase for you: “what if not?” Learn it, live it.
P.S. you’re 44 and you think your age range for men is 31-46??
BWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by GuestWill on Dec 4, 2005, 6:10pm
“P.S. you’re 44 and you think your age range for men is 31-46??”
Agreed.
I am 32 and I would have a sexual relationship with a 44 year old woman who was in tip-top physical condition, but beyond that…….
Sorry, but guys in my age group set the match.com profile search at “22-35 years old”.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by antiriad on Dec 4, 2005, 6:12pm
This post has got to be a prank. It includes far too many character flaws of the average Ameriskank.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by chrisw79 on Dec 4, 2005, 6:13pm
That 40-year-old woman I was sleeping with in September, who wanted to get serious and I dumped her because I’d already said I wouldn’t, emailed me again in late October and wanted to resume the sex. She’d gotten a new guy, who was still with his girlfriend but ‘wants to break it off,’ despite trying for two years. So he couldn’t or wouldn’t have sex with her.
I said, hey, I get some sex, no dating, and only a little bit of whining from her in between rounds. Dating a woman more than ten years older than me? Sorry lady, some of you are great for a roll in the hay, but there’s no way I’d date one. Way too many issues – the same issues, in fact, that this woman is stating about guys. Projecting much?
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by amd on Dec 4, 2005, 6:14pm
excuse me lady, but just what are you expecting, posting how men suck in a forum of screwed over men?
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Real Deal on Dec 4, 2005, 6:31pm
Hey lady,
You need a wake up call. You are so way past your expiration date at 44 years old that most men want a real family and younger woman for that which you can never provide. Also just realize try dating older guys in their 50’s and 60’s. Then you might have luck finding what you want. No man under 35 is going to want anything more than a booty call from an older woman.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by travis on Dec 4, 2005, 6:32pm
As they say somewhere else: “I see what you did there.”
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Lee on Dec 4, 2005, 6:36pm
Dec 4, 2005, 5:22pm, Live Love Laugh wrote:Here’s some of my dating escapades …. first a little background. I’m newly single, have three teenaged daughters, just divorced in September, a 44 year-old female. I was married for 17 years. It was a good run, for the most part, but there was just something missing, you know? As they say, you only live once, so there is no reason to stay in a relationship where your needs are not being fulfilled. We will all die some day, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life thinking “what if?”.
It sounds to me you dumped your husband for no reason other than that you were dissatisfied.
“It was a good run” doesn’t mesh with “Until death do us part.” Were you lying when you took your vows, or did you just not mean it?
That wasn’t part of your wedding vows, and is capricious on your part. Let’s hope you gave up all alimony, assets, and child support and split it fairly.
Quote:I’ve had a profile up on Match for just over a year … I have to say it’s been a *very* frustrating experience. I guess what they say is true, you have to kiss *a LOT* of frogs before you meet your prince. I mostly date men within my age range (31 to 46), but it’s hard to find a man who has the maturity to match his age. I meet men who expect sex on the first date, men who can’t seem to get over their ex’es, men who are in their 40s and have NEVER even been married (WTF???), men who are newly divorced and are trying to relive their 20s, men who don’t even know what a “portfolio” is, much less even have one, men who are “between jobs” or underemployed, on and on this goes.
Well honey, you are in your 40’s and trying to relive your 20’s.
Quote:What’s really disturbing is the number of divorced men I meet who seem to hate their ex-wives with a passion. To me this is a HUGE red flag. If a man lacks the maturity to move on from a divorce without becoming bitter, then so far as I’m concerned he is not relationship material. I’m a mature adult and I have moved on from my divorce, from day ONE, and I expect the same from a potential partner. Here’s some dating advice guys: there is nothing that is more unattractive and off-putting to a woman like me than a man who has a “poor little me, my ex screwed me over, that bitch” kind of attitude. But the sad thing is it seems like a lot of the men I meet have that very attitude.
Maybe this is a hint they are giving you. Maybe their exe DID screw them over and IS A BITCH. And maybe you are part of that group even though you don’t think so.
This reads like an excellent faux-post from NiceGuy.
It reads too much like a cliche’ and has many mentions of info that those who are aware know about. I.E. that churches singles events are full of divorced women with kids (and this woman is one of them) who are looking for a new meal ticket.
Ma’am if your post was genuine, you need to change you attitude, along with the attitude of many other women.
NG, if that was you, good one!
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Chico on Dec 4, 2005, 6:38pm
I would never date a brainless 44 year stinkin’ female like the one who posted this thread.
Quote:But, I guess you can’t meet your soulmate overnight, it takes time. Time and patience.
Yeah just wait a little more, you’re 44, im sure when you’ll hit 54 and your ass is scraping to the ground you’ll find your George Clooney or Sean Connery.
Got news for you granny, switch your brain back to reality mode, cause right now you’re totally clueless junk.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by MrT on Dec 4, 2005, 9:26pm
I pity the poor fools that had to hump this bitch! I say had too, otherwise she’d have felt even more depressed and krazee if she didnt get her bit!
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by openeyes on Dec 4, 2005, 10:05pm
When this message first popped up I almost replied to point out the giveaway, but thought everyone would see it: “HUGE red flag” in third paragraph. I wonder which guy wrote this …
It did a fairly good job of portraying the insanity of why women often divorce. The only question it left me with was WHY men who’ve already been burnt would date a divorcee?
Oh yeah, sex. I hope they know better than to seek anything beyond that.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Sessinpo on Dec 4, 2005, 10:10pm
Quote:I was married for 17 years. It was a good run, for the most part, but there was just something missing, you know? As they say, you only live once, so there is no reason to stay in a relationship where your needs are not being fulfilled. We will all die some day, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life thinking “what if?”.
And I have to ask all women that agree with this if they wonder why the divorce rate is so high. If so I would suggest that they read standard marriage vows. There are variations but in general – it goes like this.
I, [Groom's name], take you [Bride's name], to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold
So I give you my life to keep
So help me God
I, [Bride's name], take you [Groom's name], to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today,
tomorrow, and forever
I will trust you and honor you
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold
So I give you my life to keep
So help me God
Is it any wonder that men are awakening to the fact that marriage is no longer a good choice for them?
Marriage is not a run. This statement clearly shows a problem. If you had a church ceremony, you made a promise, not only to the groom, but a promise to God.
Yes, we all live and die one day which is why you should have chosen the mate you were truly willing to keep your vows to.
Quote:What’s really disturbing is the number of divorced men I meet who seem to hate their ex-wives with a passion. To me this is a HUGE red flag.
Let’s take your attitude. Is it any wonder that men are angry. In the end, women are hurting themselves and apparently, with your statement, it is safe to say that many women don’t see this.
Quote:I’m a mature adult and I have moved on from my divorce, from day ONE, and I expect the same from a potential partner.
Let’s examine what you have to offer. As a male, I am seeking a female to spend my life with. Since I could easily live with a woman without marriage, the only reason I would get married is to have my own family. Therefore, I am seeking a potential wife and mother of my children. What do you have to offer in return for a loving stable male, with good values and income? You are 44 and beyond child bearing age, you already have 3 kids which is baggage. I am not only marrying you, but your kids (and hence you ex-husband). My resources, which I want to go to my family – my wife and kids – are now going to kids that aren’t mine. My time (the most valuabe of all), which I want to go to my family – my wife and kids – are now going to kids that aren’t mine. After all, to you, it’s probably just another run. This is not bobsledding or some olympic sport. I don’t think so, next.
Quote:there is nothing that is more unattractive and off-putting to a woman like me than a man who has a “poor little me, my ex screwed me over, that bitch” kind of attitude. But the sad thing is it seems like a lot of the men I meet have that very attitude.
Above answers this one. One thing that women are failing to see is that this is not a singular problem, this is a systemic problem that women as a whole have created for themselves. Think about it – men from different backgrounds and in different locations are coming to the same conclusion after experience. They want a relationship – but are soured on the marriage aspect because of what women have done to marriage. Yes, read that again – I said what women have done to marriage – making it a mockery – like you said, it was a run.
Quote:I’m about ready to give up on the online dating game, maybe there’s more quality men in other places, I don’t know.
I would suggest you give up or take what you can get.
Let me present you a conversation (that is typical) that I had with a woman.
Quote:
anne(11/25/2005 2:03:09 AM): i hope you find someone,,you seem like such a nice guyme(11/25/2005 2:03:38 AM): LOL – NG (Nice Guy). That’s the kiss of death
anne(11/25/2005 2:03:55 AM): lol
me(11/25/2005 2:04:25 AM): One thing I’ve learned in my short 33 years. NGs don’t get the girl
anne(11/25/2005 2:05:01 AM): thats because the right one hasn’t come along yet
me(11/25/2005 2:05:39 AM): no – I think if a girl has those feelings for you, she does whether you are an NG or not
anne: true
me(11/25/2005 2:06:16 AM): But NGs aren’t strong so they have a harder time getting a girl. At least that is the way it works these days
anne(11/25/2005 2:09:11 AM): well, they may chose the not -so nice type,, but they usually regret it later
me(11/25/2005 2:09:44 AM): I know. It seems the current pattern is a girl in her 20s choosing a guy she is physically attracted to despite his character or future prospects. Then getting divorced and looking for an NG in her 30s or later after she’s had a few kids
anne(11/25/2005 2:11:53 AM): yep,,sounds about right, then marry older men
me(11/25/2005 2:12:33 AM): The problem is that if I ever want to commit to a woman, it is because I want to have my own family and she already has kids. I guess I’m out of luck
anne(11/25/2005 2:13:27 AM): i wouldnt say that,,,dont give up
Now I am not saying you went after a badboy for your first marriage. But if you married him, then it should have been serious enough to warrant such a commitment – a commitment that was supposed to be a lifetime – reread the traditional marriage vows. Maybe you recall your own marriage vows.
You have made the bed you are now sleeping in. All women are making the bed they are sleeping in. Young women have bought the feminist crap and media lies (commercials that portray what a woman and man should be and look like) – now they women are paying for being deceived by the feminist lies. Men are awakening and more and more are shunning marriage. After all – women have become sluttier, looser and so shallow. They are truly are equals now – so much our equals that they are even shallower then men – reducing themselves to the very thing that feminists complain about – being sex objects! What good are you? What value would you bring as a marriage partner to offset the negatives? – nothing but sex and unfortunately for you, you are 44 with 3 kids. I can get sex from younger women, thank you very much, without the baggage.
Feminism is great – I love it. You think it has impowered women. It has made you worthless for anything but sex because it has deceived the main stream and led women away from traditional values, morales and principles – Three cheers for feminism and socialism – hip hip hooray.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by piggst on Dec 4, 2005, 10:26pm
Perhaps there’s a cat in her future?
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Just a guy on Dec 4, 2005, 11:10pm
Dec 4, 2005, 5:22pm, Live Love Laugh wrote:What’s really disturbing is the number of divorced men I meet who seem to hate their ex-wives with a passion. To me this is a HUGE red flag. If a man lacks the maturity to move on from a divorce without becoming bitter, then so far as I’m concerned he is not relationship material. …
What’s really disturbing is the number of divorced women I meet who seem to hate their ex-husband with a passion. To me this is a HUGE red flag. If a woman lacks the maturity to work on the problems in the marriage without cashing out, then so far as I’m concerned she is not relationship material.
Enjoy your cat.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by chrisvet on Dec 4, 2005, 11:32pm
Dec 4, 2005, 5:22pm, Live Love Laugh wrote:Here’s some of my dating escapades …. first a little background. I’m newly single, have three teenaged daughters, just divorced in September, a 44 year-old female. I was married for 17 years. It was a good run, for the most part, but there was just something missing, you know? As they say, you only live once, so there is no reason to stay in a relationship where your needs are not being fulfilled. We will all die some day, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life thinking “what if?”.
I’ve had a profile up on Match for just over a year … I have to say it’s been a *very* frustrating experience. I guess what they say is true, you have to kiss *a LOT* of frogs before you meet your prince. I mostly date men within my age range (31 to 46), but it’s hard to find a man who has the maturity to match his age. I meet men who expect sex on the first date, men who can’t seem to get over their exes, men who are in their 40s and have NEVER even been married (WTF???), men who are newly divorced and are trying to relive their 20s, men who don’t even know what a “portfolio” is, much less even have one, men who are “between jobs” or underemployed, on and on this goes.
What’s really disturbing is the number of divorced men I meet who seem to hate their ex-wives with a passion. To me this is a HUGE red flag. If a man lacks the maturity to move on from a divorce without becoming bitter, then so far as I’m concerned he is not relationship material. I’m a mature adult and I have moved on from my divorce, from day ONE, and I expect the same from a potential partner. Here’s some dating advice guys: there is nothing that is more unattractive and off-putting to a woman like me than a man who has a “poor little me, my ex screwed me over, that bitch” kind of attitude. But the sad thing is it seems like a lot of the men I meet have that very attitude.
I’m about ready to give up on the online dating game, maybe there’s more quality men in other places, I don’t know. I’m thinking about trying Eharmony.com, it’s service seems to be more oriented to forming lasting relationships between soulmates. I’m tempted to join my church’s singles group, but from what I’ve heard from other single women at church is that the pickings are very slim there too. But, I guess you can’t meet your soulmate overnight, it takes time. Time and patience. But I know with all my heart that there is some good man out there who was put here just for me …
The reason you can’t find a decent man is you have nothing decent to offer – other than mindless “feel good” entitlements, cellulite, 3 kids, a mortgage, carloan, and a disgruntled ex-husband.
By all means you’re a product of a system that profits (and breeds) unhappy women.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Riskbreaker on Dec 5, 2005, 12:56am
You’ve been watching too much Oprah Janine, as previously stated, you suffer from Ameriscankus-narcissisicus – a disorder where women with too much free reign think the world revolves around their whimsical “entitlements” of self importance and “feeling good.”
In a world lacking safety nets (the real world) you’d be too busy being productive for time to utter such nonsense.
Good quote from a wise man.
Here’s some great inspiration from MOtS:
The Ultimate Weapon
Living well.
Women, especially those career chick American women, hate men that live well without them. American career chick women that I know, seem to constantly devise schemes and such to draw me into their miserable lives, but I just ignore them and continue about doing the things I want to in life and living well. I am sure I am not the exception to this, with American career chick women trying to sucker some other man into their miserable world of cats, television, and awful attitudes that don’t attract men – and they wonder why they are single? By living well, you will also find that certain men will hate you too (this is called jealousy), but who cares, they have crap jobs as some type of salary man at big corporation X or what not, to support some nagging, abusive, demeaning wife under threat of divorce and losing it all or some ex-wife via alimony and child support, or have to put up with some biatch American girlfriend, but you go home to peace and quiet, enjoying a fine cigar and cognac, contemplating what country to visit next in your pursuit of being a world traveler and connaisseur extraordinaire. You might entertain thoughts of having a family or kids, but then you look around at those that do here in the US, and realize, you won’t be getting off at that stop. Wait for it, plenty of women in world, plenty of countries, pick a place you find that has good laws supporting men’s rights and family and such, and pitch your tent there if you so desire a family. In the meantime, live well, for every second you do such, you are giving the middle finger to countless people around you caught up in the system as well as the system itself, and you remain free. Indeed, as they say, living well is the best revenge.
The Empire Strikes Back
I have noticed that every woman, whether foreign or domestic, finds pleasure in breaking a man. They try to create drama, circumstances, chaos, or whatever to confused and drive a man to the point of emotional breakdown, they especially like it when men cry from it. This I have seen with my friends among their girlfriends and wives. Their women love to break them as men, then these women act strong as if they are these mens’ solutions to their problems, which they brought upon these men in the first place. I have seen women try and pull this crap on me as well, but I refuse to tolerate their nonsensical games that they play and strike back twice as hard against their lunacy. Women fear power and dread confidence. Go Dark Side on them. Tell them to shut the fuck up immediately and give them the Last Judgment Day look while laying down the law accordingly, noting that the only problem is them. Speaking with authority and radiating power in presence shuts down women for good from pulling all that shit mentioned above – then get rid of them from your life. Yes, this will be a day long remembered.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by GuestWill on Dec 5, 2005, 3:26am
“Go Dark Side on them. Tell them to shut the fuck up immediately and give them the Last Judgment Day look while laying down the law accordingly, noting that the only problem is them”
Very true. Whenever I am dating a woman for awhile and she starts nagging (i.e. “why aren’t we going out and you entertaining me tonight”), I will look at the door of my house and say ” this is my house, get the fuck out”. “I am not here to entertain you”
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by khankrumthebulgar on Dec 5, 2005, 9:13am
Last year I was in an office in Dallas with three other Men. One who is in his 50s, a Black man in his late 40s, and a former VP of a Major Payment Network Provider. He was a VP of a Major Aquiring Bank. And earned in excess of 7 figures. His wife cashed out on him.
One is remarried and his first wife is a Monster. And she is violent. He had to get a restraining order. He is a very articulate Black Man. And Black Women are chasing him like nobody’s business. The other guy vows he will never remarry ever. Two kids got ripped off big time. Worked his butt off for his exwife and family.
Men in there 40s are overwhelmingly Divorced in huge numbers beyond what the stats say. I am observing this in Dallas Texas. One company I worked at the numbers of Divorced Men was 75%.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Gianni Exile on Dec 5, 2005, 9:25am
This must be a joke.
There is no way anyone, man or woman, could be so delusional.
Well, perhaps, but I find it incredible.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Niall NLIT on Dec 5, 2005, 11:15am
Nah its a parody. Own up who did it?
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Post by Geoff on Dec 5, 2005, 8:45pm
I don’t think this is a parody. But goddam chris, if you’re up to something, clever you, fess up.
Most women have NO idea of the frivolous divorcing that has gone on, and the emotional, spiritual torture that these guys have gratuitously experienced.The women have all done the dumping. AND THERE AREN’T GOOD REASONS FOR ALL THIS SUFFERING. The karma debt here is enormous.
She’s going to find man after man who is bitter and wounded. So she has 75% who have been fucked over by their wives, and 10% who have never married who are worthless.
Just get over it, she says. Yeah, well when we fuck you and dump you, just get over it.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by crella on Dec 6, 2005, 12:10am
‘Divorced in September’ but your profile is up ‘over a year’!?
Divorce because you’re bored? In an iffy mood?
I’m surprised even the ‘frogs’ as you call them, will go near you, but that too will end.
Ahhh the thought of all those frogs living freely….
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Chris Vet on Dec 6, 2005, 4:12am
Dec 5, 2005, 8:45pm, Geoff wrote:I don’t think this is a parody. But goddam chris, if you’re up to something, clever you, fess up.
Ha, Moi? Nada Neva buddy.
I suck @ creative writing, always have.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by BOY on Dec 6, 2005, 9:56am
Dec 5, 2005, 9:25am, Gianni Exile wrote:This must be a joke.
There is no way anyone, man or woman, could be so delusional.
Well, perhaps, but I find it incredible.
Whether this is a troll in disguise or not, the essence of this attitude is alive and well in women 35 to 55. I personally know many women just like this in real life. Don’t believe me? Go to Match.com and search on this age range and start reading profiles. It will make you both laugh and vomit at the same time.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by CuriePoint on Dec 6, 2005, 11:23am
I’m not too sure that singles profiles are a good yardstick. In my experience, I think that most people regardless of sex will compose their profiles to sound like they are more like what they think people want. I travelled down that road before, and had profiles up on no less than four sites. Each one sounded much the same, as I was telling the truth about who I was and what I was looking for. All in all, I think I came across as a deeply caring, compassionate, and emotionally mature person.
Not one single contact from it.
When I got fed up with it, I went in and changed the profiles drastically. I came across with the I-don’t-give-a-shit-about you attitude; I took the asshole posturing to what I thought were the limits of hyperbole, and just sounded like a guy who chucked and fucked regularly, had abandoned my many children, was tatooed like a carnival sideshow freak, and didn’t even bathe regularly.
Can anybody here surmise the outcome of doing this?
Yep…within 48 hours I had no less than four replies on each of those sites. Sixteen women (okay more like thirteen because some of the same ones were responding on multiple sites) were all hot and bothered to open a dialog with me.
Soulmates? I think women like to search for Cellmates.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by BOY on Dec 6, 2005, 1:57pm
Dec 6, 2005, 11:23am, CuriePoint wrote:I’m not too sure that singles profiles are a good yardstick. In my experience, I think that most people regardless of sex will compose their profiles to sound like they are more like what they think people want. I travelled down that road before, and had profiles up on no less than four sites. Each one sounded much the same, as I was telling the truth about who I was and what I was looking for. All in all, I think I came across as a deeply caring, compassionate, and emotionally mature person.
Not one single contact from it.
When I got fed up with it, I went in and changed the profiles drastically. I came across with the I-don’t-give-a-shit-about you attitude; I took the asshole posturing to what I thought were the limits of hyperbole, and just sounded like a guy who chucked and fucked regularly, had abandoned my many children, was tatooed like a carnival sideshow freak, and didn’t even bathe regularly.
Can anybody here surmise the outcome of doing this?
Yep…within 48 hours I had no less than four replies on each of those sites. Sixteen women (okay more like thirteen because some of the same ones were responding on multiple sites) were all hot and bothered to open a dialog with me.
Soulmates? I think women like to search for Cellmates.
Let me clarify. I meant that if you look on these dating websites for women in the age range of 35 to 50ish you will find that very nearly 100% of them have the same things in common….1) Divorced at least once, if not twice or more (I have a female friend that is working on her 5th divorce at 40 and my ex wife is on her 4th marriage), 2) have 1 or more children from 1 or more relationships, 3) found something about their prior partners unfulfilling (therefore this disqualifies him as her soulmate and the relationship is therefore not worth investing anything in), and 4) a high percentage use the term “looking for their soulmate” or something similar. Now look through the men’s profiles in the same age range….a very, very small percentage of men use that terminology.
My own personal feeling is that men and women mean different things when they say they are looking for their “soulmate”. Women believe they there is one man out there that they are destined to love like no other. Soulmates are exciting, they are passionate, they “compete” her in a way no other man can. It is purely an emotional thing for a women.
Women in the 35 to 50 year old age range generally fall into these categories:
1: Never married because of some factor that made them unmarriagable in the 20 to 35 year old age range.
(The 35 to 40 year olds are most likely to suffer from “baby rabies”. The 41 to 45 years are most likely to suffer from the delusion that they can still reproduce because they read it on the internet somewhere that women are having children well into their 50s now days. The 46 to 50 year olds are most likely to mistakenly believe that 50 is the new 30 are looking to relive their slutty 20’s. Which leaves you with a very small chance of finding a decent companion and almost nil chance of finding a women that marriage material from this group.)
2: Divorced one or more times because they married a bad boy(s) that screwed them over (and over and over and …).
3: Divorced one or more times because they married a nice guy that they got bored with him.
4: Married with varying degrees of happiness.
5: Other (less than 5% of the remaining subjects)
Women in category #2 use “I thought he was my soulmate” as an excuse for their own need for pursuing abusive relationships. Women in category #3 most often use “He’s not my soulmate” to justify their lack of interest in their husband, family, children, or wedding vows.
The result of this is you will see a high percentage of women in this age range on dating websites with some form of the statement “I’m looking for my soulmate” in their profiles. This is just a symptom of the disease.
While men might be looking for his “soulmate”…this is not just a purely emotional thing. Men and women have divergent goals in pursuing a partner. Men look for women to *become* their soulmate. Men that are ready to emotionally invest in a long term, committed, martial relationship are more apt to *build* that relationship with a partner based on how he feels about her emotionally. What she means to him. How she treats and makes him feel. Men that have outgrown “fuck and chuck” and want more than a “companion” and are looking for a WIFE realize work and sacrifice are involved. Based on how things evolve with a partner over time, she will eventually *become* his soulmate to him. Women however, expect find the perfect man that will satisfy her every emotional need at all times for the rest of her life with no work, effort, or sacrifice on her part….that, and only that, man is her soulmate that density will bring her.
Beware when you hear a women talking about how she left a marriage to look for her “soulmate”, she will just end up leaving you when she decides that you aren’t him. Its a big red flag thats letting you know that shes gets bored with real committed relationships.
Now if your looking for a date, company, companionship, sex, entertainment…not a problem at all. You will probably find a bunch of women that can fill any of those roles very satisfactorily. But if your looking for a women to invest your emotion in with the hopes of finding a wife…move on. You should look at your marriage and family as your life’s work, would you really invest yourself wholly in a women with this shallow view of relationships?
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by blah on Dec 6, 2005, 3:09pm
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Niall NLIT on Dec 7, 2005, 4:52am
All the time and I mean all the time I meet woman who are in the 35 to 45 age range who are divorced with kids.
They shucked off hubby because he was dull conventional boring whatever and because they truly believed that they would immediately be swept off their feet by handsome rich muscle boy in his sports car and that he would be both a great lover and more than willing to take on the kids. THEY TRULY BELIEVE THIS. Now admittedly this fantasy is pumped out by every magazine and TV show including The Simpsons but really how can they be so stupid?
The reality is they become either male fuck toys if they look anything like or they have to scrape the bottom of the barrel just for a date if they are not.
I occasionally fuck the better looking of these woman but only after confirming they had a cesarean, you know what I mean…
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by chrisvet on Dec 7, 2005, 6:07am
eck. Can’t stand Cesarean scars. Reminds me of a vomit covered baby and some other guys dick in the chick.
I’ve probably been lucky. Most if not all of the chicks I’ve fucked with kids under 30 were relatively tight. Generally find the older they get (esp. if they have kids) the looser they are.
Here in Canada doctors don’t get paid big bucks to perform cesareans, explaining why such a small percentage of Maplescanks have C-scars. In the USA a huge number of women get c-sections.
I believe its strictly a money thing.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Niall NLIT on Dec 7, 2005, 10:22am
Money thing plus In HellA a legal liability thing. Slightest problem with the birth and the knife comes out.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by chrisvet on Dec 7, 2005, 2:26pm
Ah, yes, that makes sense now. Everyone sues everyone in the US. (funny, not here)
US doctors taking every possible precaution is logical due to the differences in our medical systems. (one is socialist, one isn’t.)
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by Lydia1 on Dec 8, 2005, 9:54pm
Mapleskanks? Lol.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by IndependantBlackMan on Dec 9, 2005, 3:11pm
The very use of the term “soulmate” by a female shoots off a red flag for me. It is the media-perpetuated, fictitious, fantasy figure that the women chase but never find.
Women also rely on this fantasy to justify leaving a husband, a la Jennifer Lopez, who is an egregious example. It’s only a matter of time before she declares Marc Anthony “not her soulmate” and she’ll be on her way.
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Re: Finding Your Soulmate ?
Post by khankrumthebulgar on Dec 15, 2005, 11:17pm
Jennifer Lopez aka. Hispanic Semen Dumpster for Bad Boys and Players. Read her contract on the Smoking Gun web site. She is a major Bitch and Skank. Marc Anthony probably married her to further his career. She is a major liability waiting to happen. Ben Affleck Married a Woman who seems Sweet and they had a kid right away.
Hope it works for them both. He seems to be interested in a Political Career. Lopez is a fraud and phony. She personally does nothing for me. Another Hollyweird Attention Whore. The Hispanic Version of Paris Hilton with a little more talent but not much more.
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