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Why Modern, Western Marriage Has Become A Bad Business Decision For Men


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Why Modern, Western Marriage Has Become A Bad Business Decision For Men

This writing seeks to educate men about the realities of what they may be getting into when they marry a Western Woman. An informed decision is less likely to be one that may be regretted later in the marriage. The intent is not to dissuade men from marrying, but to encourage them to communicate frankly their concerns and expectations regarding marriage with their potential spouses. The secondary aim of this essay is to enlighten women to a few of the reasons why increasingly larger numbers of successful, eligible, unmarried men, who would otherwise prefer monogamous long-term relationships, are turning their backs on marriage.

Society typically paints a negative stereotype of men who hesitate, delay, or elect not to marry.

They are labeled as either:

A) Womanisers who are unable to participate in a long term relationship, or
B) Selfish, childish or irresponsible men who can not take care of themselves or another person.

No other explanation is ever explored.

The cost of proclaiming your undying love

In University, in professional sports, in politics, in the workplace; women have the same educational and professional career opportunities as men. Contrary to commonly believed feminist propaganda, women do indeed get paid the same salary as men, given that they are willing to work the same types of jobs as men, and work as many hours as the men do. Despite this reality, many women come into marriage with very few assets, and often are saddled with substantial quantities of debt. In general, men are the ones who save and invest. Don’t believe me? Count the number of women of marrying age that you know who subscribe to financial services magazines or newspapers. A significant number of 20-something and 30-something women spend all of their disposable income on luxury rental apartments, upscale restaurants, frequent exotic vacations, leased cars, spa treatments, and excessive amounts of clothing, purses, shoes and accessories. Yet ironically, in the media, men are the ones who are portrayed as reckless, irresponsible spendthrifts.

When marriage enters the picture, double standards and financial imbalances leave responsible men to pick up the slack and fix the mess she may have made of her finances. Men are forced to spend their hard-earned savings, or take out an usurious loan, on a diamond ring. Women justify this relatively recent, mid-20th Century ritual, which was spawned by a brilliant 1940’s mass-brainwashing campaign launched by DeBeers, by insisting that a man wants to buy her a diamond and that it makes him proud to be able to proclaim his love and affection towards her in this fashion. Granted there are some men who may be inclined to declare their commitment to a life-long partner in this way, but there are plenty of men whom seek a lifelong partnership and commitment who have no interest in buying diamonds. What choice do these men have? None! To many young men, the ring, catered wedding, and honeymoon in an exotic locale at a five-star hotel is an unwelcome land mine on their journey towards adult financial stability and independence. To add insult to injury, he is now locked into a lifetime of insurance payments for this grossly overpriced jewelry. Contrary to popularly held belief diamonds are not rare at all, but instead are common and inexpensive. Their high price is due to their supply having been artificially manipulated. Some men are more concerned with realising their dream of owning a home and becoming financially stable enough to begin a family and responsibly provide for their welfare. Men worry about these matters, because, ultimately, it becomes their sole responsibility.

The purchase of the diamond ring is a predictor of things to come. Immediately after buying it, the man may be rewarded with bridal demands to finance all or part of a lavish wedding, depending upon the size of his bank account and the ambitions of his fiancée. The average costs of today’s Western Weddings frequently exceed that of a house down payment or, in certain parts of the world, the entire cost of the house itself. If a man enters a marriage having saved up a down payment for his dream home, it can suddenly be snatched right out from underneath him. Many men may object to spending such a large sum of money on what is basically a very expensive one-day, four-hour party. He also will be spending a year of his life planning it, when he could use the same time to further his career or education. However, what a man wants is really not of any concern anymore at this point in the proceedings. His wants, desires, hopes and dreams are ignored almost in their entirety. Her opinions regarding the wedding are frequently non-negotiable. A wedding is no longer an event that is equally for the bride and groom. As many of today’s Bridezilla’s will gleefully remind you, “Today is MY day!”. This gives her licence to become selfish, irresponsible, demanding and childlike. A man who balks at spending his entire life savings, or shouldering a five-figure debt load, for the ring, catered wedding and honeymoon in an exotic locale at a five-star hotel, can and will be labeled as a selfish cheapskate or not a “Real Man”. If a woman leaves such a man for him suggesting that they try to keep their costs under control, she would have the full support of everyone around her as she dumped him.

“She can do better”, “Clearly, he doesn’t love her”, “He doesn’t deserve her”, and similar sentiments will be muttered in quiet circles just out of his earshot. This is a sign of her good self-esteem and healthy self-image, and a sign that she won’t settle for anything less. She is the poster girl for the Modern, Independent Woman.

Imagine if a man demanded equal treatment and asked that she buy him a new bass boat, and a two-week bear hunt in Siberia as a condition of marriage. This would be viewed as absurd, yet women do it every day. Modern Western Marriage is supposedly an equal partnership, isn’t it?

The injustices go from bad to worse when children enter the picture. If he can afford to carry the entire familial financial burden, the woman may now elect to stop working entirely. She will often make this decision regardless of how he may feel about it. The day she stops working is the day that all of her past financial baggage unequivocally gets tossed onto his shoulders. If the woman has racked up substantial credit card debts, these are now his payments to make; if the woman has not bothered to pay off her student loans, these become his responsibility; if she owes an enormous sum on her luxury car note, it is up to him to pay it off. Irony of ironies is that he is now paying for her degree and she isn’t even working anymore! Can he object? Can he say: “No Honey, you made your mess, and it should not be my job to clean it up. You knew that you wanted kids even before you met me, and you should have planned ahead.” No, he cannot. The payments can’t be deferred until she is once again able to continue repaying them herself, not if he wants to retain a clean credit rating to get a loan for their dream home. If he even suggested that she return to work to pay off some of her own debt load, he opens himself to criticisms of being an unsupportive husband and bad father who is endangering the welfare of his children. Now the noose tightens and the responsible husband compensates for the mother’s freewheeling and irresponsible past, and begins slowly to pay off her old debts. In the most twisted turn of events yet, the debt he is paying off may often be on credit cards used to finance Vacations, Hotel Rooms and Christmas gifts shared with previous husbands, boyfriends, fiancés and lovers. Caveat Emptor! This is the reward for today’s man who works hard, makes sacrifices, plans ahead, and invests wisely. By getting married to the typical Modern, Western Woman, the man is certainly susceptible to being railroaded into this situation, because it is completely acceptable within today’s gender roles and societal norms.

Marriage can mean career slavery

Anyone who says, “Slavery is dead” clearly has not contemplated the predicament of the average Western Husband, where a good paycheck can mean career slavery. Merriam-Webster’s English Dictionary defines slavery as “…(T)he state of a person who is a chattel (an item of tangible movable or immovable property) of another person.” If the husband earns enough to support both of them, he would be hard pressed to make an argument to preserve equality and have her continue working as he does. If the wife decides to stop working, the man who has been left holding the financial bag finds his options very limited. He may find himself working in a career that he hates, for abusive and exploitative management, excessively long hours, in a position that is physically dangerous or demanding, in an organisation that has no growth potential, far away from home. At this point, considering the corner he’s been painted into, he is often powerless to affect any positive, meaningful change in his own life. He may have been harbouring delusions that once his wife was able to return to work, he would be able to gain some flexibility to rectify some of the shortcomings in his own career. Perhaps changing careers or accepting a lower salary at a different firm in exchange for better hours, a shorter commute, or more fulfilling work. Nevertheless, the distinct reality is that he will continue to shoulder the financial responsibilities of his family alone. His reward for working hard and getting ahead is to become trapped into his career, and become a specialised beast of burden to an emotionally and financially dependent family. Does it really pay to work hard anymore and apply oneself to his full potential?

If she stops working, she may never work again.

There are many debates about the merits of a stay-at-home mother vs. a working mother. My goal here is to simply educate the prospective husband on frequently unseen risks he is taking on when he agrees to accept 100% of the financial burden to allow his wife to stay at home. An informed decision is less likely to be one that may be regretted later in the marriage.

Every parent will agree that staying home with children is backbreaking and often mind-numbing labour. Many new fathers may concede that it is much easier to go to work than to stay at home with several children. However, the greatest imbalance in efforts and contributions to a marriage can manifest once all of the children are of school age. The house is now empty from 8am-3pm. The wife has 7 hours to herself while the kids are at school and the husband is at work. After a few years of hard work at home, many wives may feel entitled to “kick back” and take it easy. The good, supportive husband, however, has worked those same years, has done his 50/50 of the housework, and is still working just as hard to support the family once the kids are in school. His workload has not diminished, and it may have even increased as her expectations rise. He is rarely afforded the same option to scale back his daytime efforts.

What motivation does the modern wife have to return to work? Very little. For several years now, the man’s salary has been enough to live on. Otherwise, she would have been working to make ends meet. Unless tight finances dictate that she must return to work, the husband really has little say in this matter. The wife can hide behind many different excuses in order not to work, despite having little to do from 8am-3pm. Among the commonest are:

“I’m busy with the housework”
It is easy to exaggerate the labours of daily housework. Yet how long does it take to throw clothes or dishes into the washer, and remove them later? Vacuuming can be done in 1 hour a week. Grocery shopping is another hour per week. A decent meal can be prepared in under an hour. Does all of this add up to 7 hours a day? The lie that housework is hard, time-consuming drudgery is no longer as persuasive as it may have been in the past, because in an age of later marriage, many men are already experienced in cooking, cleaning, and general housekeeping and know that it doesn’t take that much effort or time. Humourously, not every stay-at-home-wife even performs all of these duties.

“I can’t find a job”
She has been out of work too long, and therefore is unable to find a job. This may be true, but many men do not consider this risk when they agree to support her while she “temporarily” stops working. Hopefully now they will, and can make a more informed decision. Many wives may use this as a convenient scapegoat to stop looking for any job at all. The next section describes how this can be used against him in the event of divorce.

“It doesn’t pay for me to work”
In the short run, the expenses of returning to work such as gas, lunch, clothes and day care may not make it worthwhile for her to return to the workforce. This may be true, but does that justify her playing tennis, drinking lattes and ‘catching up with her friends’ while her husband toils away? Many couples may be too shortsighted to thoroughly and comprehensively think through this issue. Initially, the cost to benefits ratio may not be ideal, but her returning to work will improve her job skills and network of contacts and over time the return on investment will improve. More so than strolling through the local mall every afternoon and window-shopping for new window treatments. Over time, as her career gets back on track, and she becomes qualified for better jobs, her salary should also improve.

It should be duly noted that some working wives view their salary as “personal spending money”, and still expect the man to pay all or most of the bills. Western Women are often heard to claim that, “What’s mine is mine, and what’s his is ours.”

Even more unfair double standards that favour wives

If a married man cheats, he’s the scum of the earth. He is a selfish jerk that has jeopardised the family unit, done his ‘thinking with his little head’, and disrespected his wife and children. However, when the woman cheats, she’s portrayed as the victim of an insensitive and inattentive husband. “Poor thing, he ignores her. It is for her empowerment, to boost her ego. She deserves it after bearing and rearing his children.” It’s good for her self-esteem. Worse, her cheating is portrayed as the man’s fault. If he works long hours to provide for her and the children, he works too much. If he is tired at the end of the day from 13 hours of manual labour, then he doesn’t compliment her as much as she wants. Into this vacuum of conflicting expectations steps the first man who “makes me feel like a Real Woman again…”. You read that correctly; the man who is scrambling to pay the mortgage and car payments and is working double shifts to pay for the consumer goods she demanded to have is now considered a negligent and emotionally abusive husband. The man who may be working two jobs to allow her to be home with her kids is now considered a candidate for Domestic Violence.

When a woman cheats, the first thing people ask is what he did, or more often, didn’t do, to drive her into the arms of another man.

When a man cheats, no one ever asks the same question.

When a woman cheats, the reaction will be; “Oh, poor thing, I guess her husband couldn’t get the job done in the bedroom”.

When a man cheats, no one ever stops to think; “Oh poor fellow, his wife was horrible in bed.”

Let’s not forget what happens if a man were to leave his wife for a younger woman. This will become fodder at the coffee shop for months. It is automatically assumed that he is a shallow sex maniac whose only motivation was to be with a younger woman. The possibility that his wife was of a generation of women who were taught to hate men and that younger women do not, that she was lazy, or a reckless spendthrift, or verbally or physically abusive, or grossly overweight, or an incompetent mother, are rarely considered and are often totally ignored. The myth is that the only reason a man leaves his wife is to be with a younger, more attractive woman. Never mind if she is a better match for him and a more supportive, nurturing mate.

If a man insists on a Pre-Nup, he is selfish and unromantic. However, when is the last time a woman who demanded a Pre-Nup was called “unromantic”? On the contrary, if a woman requests a Pre-Nup, she is being fiscally responsible, sensible and looking out for herself. (Note: If your fiancée refuses to sign a Pre-Nup, she has just shown her hand. Best to leave now.) Why is it that a woman can refuse a Pre-Nup, and it is accepted by society? In reality, the man should be outraged that she is after a legal contract, and not love.

What is astounding is the hypocrisy of the usual reaction towards Pre-Nups. Women can conveniently assert that a man is unromantic if he suggests a Pre-Nup. After all, how can a man pollute true love with the signing of legal paperwork! However, what is a marriage licence? Nothing more than a legal contract entered into between the man, woman and local and state government authorities. A woman does not seem to balk at signing this legal paperwork, which entitles her to at least half the assets a man has accumulated as well as half of everything he earns in the future, and obligates him to support her in perpetuity in the event of a breakup. Why aren’t men allowed to note how unromantic this contract is? The distraction of bridal magazines, place setting selection, floral arrangements, wedding dresses, receptions, wedding showers, and honeymoons have clouded the legal reality of what men are getting themselves into. Marriage is as much an unromantic legal contract as a prenuptial agreement is.

Initially, Pre-Nups were devised as a way to protect women. Nuptial agreements were popularised in the 19th century, mostly to protect heiresses from marrying men who were “out for their money”. Until the Married Women’s Property Act of 1848, under English Common Law, a woman’s property, upon marriage, was usually transferred to her husband.

“Stupid, Irresponsible” Men
Men are severely abused in our media, quite frankly. Just watch any TV commercial or sitcom and see how they portray men as idiots, dolts, or well intentioned, if bumbling, buffoons. If women were portrayed in commercials in the same fashion, “Women’s Organisations” would have a fit. If it weren’t for their wives in these shows and ads the men would be lost “animals”, unable to feed themselves or perform even the simplest of tasks. Other commercials make it appear that men act without thinking, only responding in an impulsive and irrational manner, and that the wife is the brains of the family. Even many women will agree that women often are the ones who act upon emotions and make judgments solely based up on emotional attachments and not logic or reason. Almost every “couples budgeting” article will portray the woman as the one who has to rein in the man’s childish spending, when in truth it is usually the woman who cannot control her expenditures.

Job Loss
If a husband loses his job and is having trouble finding work, the wife is completely and totally justified in threatening to leave him. However, can you imagine the reaction if a husband threatened to leave a wife who was in the exact same position? He would be vilified! If a man loses his job, the woman is justified in resenting the fact that the financial burden lies on her. He is no longer a ‘good provider’. When is a man allowed to resent this very same predicament? If a man is laid off and cares for the household and kids while the wife is working, he may be accused of not pulling his weight! Yet this is exactly the same situation that women demand more recognition for with each passing year! No matter what role the man plays, he loses!

Traditional Roles
It is perfectly acceptable for a woman to demand that a man make a certain salary, drive a certain car, live in a certain part of the city, have a certain job, have the ‘right’ manners, talk a certain way, walk a certain way, behave a certain way, have a degree from the ‘right’ University and dress in a stylish fashion, to be deemed “marriage material” and be able to provide her with the stability she feels she deserves. If a man demands his wife do the cooking and cleaning, he can now be labeled old fashioned and sexist. If he asks her to carry her weight financially, just as he does, he may be criticised as an inadequate provider. If a man insists that his wife honor the conjugal requirements of the marriage contract, he can and will be accused of sexual abuse, sexual assault or rape.

To add insult to injury, some women have gotten so pampered that they not only quit their jobs the day they find out they are pregnant, but they then go out and hire as many nannies, cooks, gardeners and pool boys as their husband can afford. Many Western Wives stay at home and hire someone else to rear the kids and clean up, while they drink lattes and go shopping all day with other pampered “stay-at-home” mothers. Does it pay to work hard and get ahead anymore, if this is how your hard-earned money is squandered?

The concept of the pampered wife is a relatively new one. Most of Western Civilisation was primarily an agricultural economy even up until the 1920’s and 1930’s. Western Wives contributed to the well being of the household by helping on the farm. A man needed a wife as an equal partner. It was not until the 1950’s that the first generation of Western Wives, first in The States and later in Europe, Australia and New Zealand, began to emerge as dead weight. Perhaps this coincides with the spiking of the divorce rate in The States, and later Europe and the other English Speaking Nations, and the rise of Feminism. Perhaps men have become tired of giving so much, while getting so little in exchange.


43% of Western Marriages end in divorce, and 70% to 93% of these divorces are initiated by women.

All men should consult a legal professional before marrying, and understand the implications of divorce, because the chances are 1-in-3 that they will participate in one whether they like it, want it, inititate it or not.

Upon divorce, all assets accumulated during and prior to a marriage are subject to division. It has become, simply put. a licence to steal. Even if the woman has not worked in years, and has spent the intervening decade(s) shopping and lunching from 8am-3pm, she is entitled to half, or more, of everything the man worked for during the course of the marriage. Is this fair? How many people would ever agree to a job contract that stipulated that in the event of separation that one party would have to return 50% of the gross amount of everything in the pay packet? No one in his or her right mind would knowingly sign such an agreement. Yet Western Men unknowingly agree to the exact same insanity each time they sign their marriage contract!

“Assets accumulated prior to a marriage are exempt from a divorce”. In theory this is true, in practice it is not. If funds from an account are commingled or combined, it can become marital property. How do funds become commingled, or mixed? If even the smallest sum from a prior account is spent towards the marriage, all of that account will now be considered marital property. Buy your child a lollipop from your own account, and a good lawyer will take one-half of it for your ex-wife when you divorce. If a woman moves into a home the man owned prior to the marriage, it is not safe from divorce. If she so much as hangs up a sheet of wallpaper, puts up draperies, paints a wall, or installs a light fixture, the home is now classified as joint marital property, and is now subject to equal division. Worse actually, the man can be ejected from the home if she makes a false claim of domestic violence, physical abuse, verbal abuse or child abuse. Where is the equality and fairness?

Note: “Equal Division” is also somewhat of a misnomer. Often, she can get upwards of 70% – 90% of the assets, while the man gets the majority of the debts! She gets all of the benefits, he gets all of the responsibilities. This, of course, is just and right and is his reward for working so hard all of those years. He can afford it; she can’t because she was not working.

If you pamper your wife, it can be used against you

Imagine that in the spirit of generosity and kindness that you gave a beggar a hot meal. A generous act, indeed. Now imagine your reaction if that same beggar sues you in court. He is petitioning the judge to have you keep providing him with the food that you gave him willingly, freely, out of a big heart. The judge orders you to keep feeding the homeless man meals, indefinitely, forever, because he has become accustomed to eating those meals! This is categorically absurd, yet this happens to Western Men in divorce court every day. Instead of thanking you for paying her bills for all those years, what you get is the privilege of being legally forced to pay her bills forever!

After having children, many women demand to quit working and stay home. Before the kids came along, many of these same women may have been in careers they hated, working long hours, and enduring long commutes. It is the man’s generosity and dedication to his own career that enables her to walk away from her own career. During a marriage, a man with a stay-at-home wife might work long and grueling hours in order to support her. He will pay the mortgage, the property tax, grocery bill, phone bill, cable bill, Internet bill and electric bill. He also pays for her car, gas money, clothes, and vacations.

As one final slap in the face, the man may be punished for working hard enough to allow his wife to have the luxury of staying at home with the kids. As noted above, after the children are in school, the wife may enjoy a life of leisure and relaxation that is afforded to her by her man’s hard work. In the event of divorce, he will be legally obligated to support her for years or decades to come. Because she stopped working and led a life of leisure, the ex-husband is now responsible for supporting her, forever! History has a tendency of rewriting itself. Originally, a woman may have had a career that she may have hated, and was begging to leave. Western Women often “play” at work and career for a few years after University, and then when they near 30 or grow tired of the workplace they seek out a man to “take her away from all of this”, whatever “all of this” may be. In fact her desire to leave the world of work may have been her motivation to have kids in the first place. But now, in her eyes, and definitely her lawyers eyes, she “gave up” her career for her man and his kids. She is now “owed” all of her “lost income”. His gift of leisure and support to her has now become twisted and is viewed as her sacrifice! Another way in which the situation is turned against him is that he will be characterised as being threatened by her having her own career, and that he forced her to quit her “lucrative career” and stay home with the children. Her lawyer will now attempt to convince the judge that he wanted to “oppress” his wife and “keep her down”. Truthfully now, how many men do you personally know that are upset at having a wife that earns a good living? Many of these misleading stereotypes still run rampant in our society, and are routinely used to the woman’s advantage during a divorce. As a result of her not working, regardless of whether she was minding the home or not, she remains a financial liability.

Generous, caring men who spoil their wives should certainly think twice about how this generosity can later be used against them. The phrase used in divorce court is “She has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle”. A husband’s reward for spoiling his wife today is the legal obligation to spoil her indefinitely, forever. Buy her a luxury car today, and you may be obligated to buy her luxury cars after she leaves you for another man! Yet, imagine a husband that became accustomed to eating a home cooked dinner, or regular conjugal visits. Now imagine the courts obligate the ex-wife to continue cooking for him and sharing her bed with him and his new girlfriend each night, despite being divorced! Inconceivable, but it happens the other way around every day!

The ultimate insult, however, comes when the man loses half or more of his life’s assets even when she has decided to leave him. Yes, a wife can unilaterally decide to kick a man out of his own home, and have the courts force him to continue paying the bills, while she is sleeping with her new boyfriend in the very house the husband worked so long and hard to buy! She can, and often does, spend her alimony check on gifts for her new boyfriend or lover! How is it that the legal system supports a woman who feels entitled to this?

The risks are clear, yet what exactly are men getting out of marriage? Many times, the reasons men get married are unfounded.

Many of the traditional reasons why a man gets married are a myth.

“I won’t die alone”
Wrong. The simple fact is that one spouse WILL die alone. Visit the hospital and go to the terminally ill or cardiac departments. Few people have the time to sit with an ill relative all day and all night. Yes, you may get visitors, but they aren’t having the same thoughts as you are. You’re contemplating your mortality, while they’re wondering what food the hospital cafeteria offers. In the end, even with a loving and supportive family, most of us will leave this world alone, unless you both die simultaneously in an accident of some kind. Your spouse may die fifteen years before you, or you may be in the hospital for your last year. Ultimately, we all die alone. Married or not.

“I won’t grow old alone”
Not necessarily. A marriage can self-destruct at any time. Your partner may initiate divorce at age 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50, 55, 60, 65 or 70. Many married people end up in the same position (alone) as if they had never married at all. Now they enter their twilight years broke, as a result of being stripped of half or more of their life’s assets, losing half their retirement and pension funds, and being assessed alimony payments. Experiencing financial devastation from one divorce often may preclude a man from ever marrying again. This is a common observation of many middle-aged Western Women. Q: “Where are all the men?”. A: “He is broke from the divorce settlement, alimony and child support payments.” Thus these women don’t find him marriable, and he grows old alone and poor.

Men are led to believe that not marrying implies only one destiny; that of a solitary monk in a cave, a shunned loner. However, life is not so black and white. Not marrying does not mean you cannot continue to date or have meaningful relationships throughout your life. There are plenty of single people in all age brackets. A bad marriage can be the loneliest of institutions, because most of your emotional outlet and companionship is concentrated into one person who gives back nothing in emotion, affection or support. Young men in their 20’s and 30’s should be more aware of the alternatives that exist in life. They should be aware that marriage is a choice, and is not the only path life has to offer. An informed decision is less likely to be one that is later regretted.

“I’ll get regular sex”
Not from Modern, Western Women. Access to regular sex is the oldest and the most frequently cited reason to marry. Many men now know that Modern, Western Women frequently stop having sex after just a short time of being married. There are plenty of “sexless” marriages. Talk to a few married couples that are honest about their relationship. One or both partners may stop wanting sex after kids, or the sex may be as infrequent as once a year or once every six months, or the wife may only have sex when she wants the husband to buy her something, take her somewhere, or remodel the house. Read the honest opinions of married men on the Internet. Most Western, Married Men will have more sex with their Western Wives in the first six months of their marriage than they will in the next 40 years. Lastly, it remains to be seen whether sex with one exclusive partner for forty years or more is even a natural act, or just a man-made convention. In many Western Nations, the wife is no longer required to have sex with her husband. She can deny him at any time, for any length of time. She can, if she wishes, deny him sex forever and there is nothing that he can do about it. In fact, if he insists that she honor her end of the marriage contract by being available for sexual relations, he can and will be accused of, charged with, and arrested for Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault or Rape.

Marriage is hardly a guarantee of regular sex, as many people are led to believe.

“I’ll have someone to cook and clean for me”
Not necessarily. While a Modern, Western Woman is perfectly justified in quitting her job in the name of staying home with the kids, she can also demand that the husband pay for a cook, a maid, and a nanny. This leaves the man to earn the money, and leaves him to pay for maintenance of household and children, while the wife gets to play at being a housekeeper. Today’s woman is empowered by not performing the traditional housewife duties, regardless of whether she is working or not. If a husband asks that his wife perform traditional household duties because she is not working, he will often be labeled sexist, abusive or controlling, even if he is doing his “traditional role” of paying all the bills, providing for his family, and performing the traditional manly duties of vehicle repairs, maintaining the lawn and house upkeep.

“I have to be married to have kids”
Not anymore. Her ovaries do not physically need a contract at the government center in order to be fertilised by your sperm. Cro-Magnon man had children long before lawyers invented marriage contracts. Often, you do not need to be married in order to share health benefits. You do not need to be married to designate your partner on a life insurance policy. You do not need to be married to own a dream home together. It is ironic that responsible parents who raise a healthy family, but never actually sign marriage paperwork, get less respect than divorced parents or married parents who are ineffective, inattentive or incompetent.

-Having a lifelong, faithful, committed relationship has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Owning a beautiful dream home together has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Rearing healthy, happy, and successful children has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Building a family and life together has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Growing old together has nothing to do with being “married”.

In fact, recent changes in cohabitation, partner and marriage law have proven that the only tangible consequence of marriage is having a formalised separation process that usually requires the talents of an attorney.

You do need to be married in order to throw an extravagant four-hour party, and share the same last name.

You do need to be married in order to involve the state and government in your romantic affairs.

You do need to be married in order give away half of everything you own.

Besides that, marriage does nothing more than introduce lawyers and social workers into your life. These are people that otherwise would have nothing to do with your life or your relationship.

Men need to stop and ask themselves:

“Why exactly am I getting married? What exactly does marriage mean to me in today’s world? What is the benefit to me to get married?”

It is no longer a lifelong commitment, because it can be reversed overnight on her unilateral whim.

Marriage was originally created as a way for families to merge land, property, political power and influence; perhaps people should return to viewing it as just that and nothing more. The rest of it is fake modern TV Fantasy and Tabloid Gossip and Hype polluting the minds of today’s impressionable youth, and a way to keep the multi-billion-per-year wedding industry chugging along. Perhaps the only criteria should be to ask oneself: “How excited am I for us to merge our finances and assets?” When all the fluff and hype are boiled away, that may be the only remaining reality. Spend a day in divorce court, and you’ll see exactly what is real and tangible and lasting about marriage. You’ll see women who signed the marriage contract under romantic pretenses who are now expert laymen attorneys who can cite case law. Bouquet throwing ex-brides now embroiled in warfare to get everything that is coming to them and more! The rest are myths, lies, bold unsubstantiated promises, and maybes. “For better or for worse…”

The Western Divorce rate is 43%. It is higher in some parts of the world such as California, Great Britain and Australia. In Japan the recent change in pension law may have many pensioners out on the street. In India new changes to dowry law have men being threatened by their wives. Consider the number of people who are in a bad marriage, but elect to stay; Men who don’t want to lose 50%, women who know they can’t support themselves alone. Next, think of how many more couples stay together just for the sake of the kids. Of these “forced marriages”, consider how many of these marriages involve infidelity, no sex, or sleeping in separate beds or separate rooms. I estimate the percentage of happy and monogamous marriages to be under 5%. Are these odds you would take in a business venture, investment or loan? Most of the risk-averse population would not. Yet they seek this exception to the rule everyday through marriage.

Written by dontmarry

November 21, 2008 at 4:44 pm

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  1. I’m a woman and sorry ladies, There is so much truth to this article that it’s sad! After witnessing what my husband has to go through with his ex-wife, I hope my sons never get married!! Not Every woman is greedy and out to destroy their ex but in most cases they truly are! And when women like that do that it affects his relationship with his children and with anybody else that they might want to have in their life. There are no guarantees in life. Why should a man have to constantly pay for broken marriage and the woman is allowed to move on with their life and be happy?

    Tammy Lynn

    July 9, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    • The best part is when he’s on the hook for not just child support (which I get) but spousal support AFTER she gets another spouse who might even make more than he did. Most women leave to get a ‘better deal’ somewhere else. Few women leave a marriage to find a guy because he’s nice, but makes less. I think when a woman gets another fellow (common law or marriage) the former man should NOT be required to pay her a red cent for spousal support. That is criminal if you ask me.


      July 28, 2014 at 10:58 am

  2. But really, adult men should stop seducing teenage girls and women in their 20s. Adult men are nothing but child molesters and rapists. Did Prime Minister Stephen Harper not know that 18 is too young for a woman to consent? A woman needs to start with her career, earn income and save money then she will be less likely to be sexually harassed by perverted men!

    Raise the age of consent to at least age 40! Petition that female teachers who are accused of romantic affairs with students be dropped because the male students are the offenders! Lock the male students up and register them on the sex offenders registry!

    Canada should have ZERO TOLERANCE for the oppression of women!

    Madeline Weisenberg

    July 9, 2014 at 9:58 pm

    • Just because you’re fat and ugly doesn’t make men perverts for wanting young women.


      July 9, 2014 at 10:11 pm

    • Did Loren Morris not know 8 is too young for a boy to consent? – particularly after she’d gotten done sexually abusing him over 50 times?. Did Amanda Hein not know that wrapping a new born baby boy in plastic and stuffing him in a toilet was wrong and would in fact kill him?

      Let me respond to your comment: “Adult men are nothing but child molesters and rapists”. If that is what you believe then there is absolutely not point in having any discussion with you at all. You are a sick and twisted excuse for a human being who supports paedophiles and the abuse of innocent children and as far as society is concerned we should have ZERO TOLERANCE for people like you.

      Now please go away and crawl back under whatever rock you slithered out from under.

      John Galt

      July 10, 2014 at 2:39 am

    • So which is it, cunt? Are all women superior and way better than men, or are men cruelly holding women back while snickering and twirling their mustaches? It can NOT be both!

      Anyway it’s STILL not our fault you have no boyfriend or husband to buy you the tokens of affection you think you deserve. SO fuck off now, cunt.

      Little Big Dave

      July 10, 2014 at 3:36 am

    • But really, adult women should stop seducing young boys who are underaged.

      ” 30-year old Sioux Falls woman has been charged with rape, sexual contact with a child, and sexual exploitation of a minor after her boyfriend discovered her naked in their apartment Wednesday night with at least three boys between age 7 and 10.

      Sioux Falls police spokesman Sam Clemens said Anne Elizabeth Doubler’s boyfriend returned home with the couple’s 4-year-old son and caught her with the boys. The incident took place in their apartment in the 600 block of North Lewis Avenue.

      “They walked in to the apartment and ended up seeing her completely naked,” Clemens said.

      The boyfriend told police that Doubler admitted to having sexual contact with the boys, Clemens said. He then called police as the other boys scattered, he said.”

      The age of consent for a man to sleep with a women should be 40! Petition that all male teachers who are accused of romantic affairs with students be dropped because the female students are the offenders! Lock the female students up and register them on the sex offenders registry!

      Not only that, but the mothers of the female students should be locked up too for raising such offenders!

      The whole world should have ZERO TOLERANCE for the oppression of men!


      July 10, 2014 at 6:49 am

    • Wow asshole I initally assumed you were some hysterical Femi-Commie, but Mason probably spewed the same rhetoric when she was forcing sex on the underaged student in her car. The student actually WILLINGLY PROPOSED TO BE SENT TO JAIL! WTF!

      Another case of Stockholm syndrome due to the teacher’s position of authority.

      A Calgary teacher will spend two years in federal prison for sexually exploiting one of her students.

      Jennifer Mason, 28, was charged with four offences, including sexual assault and invitation to sexual touching, in connection to an incident involving a male student from the school where she was a teacher.

      Mason taught at Our Lady of Assumption School in the northwest and police say that the student was 15-years-old when the contact first began so he could not consent to a sexual relationship.

      The boy went on to high school but the pair continued to meet, allegedly having sex in motels and in Mason’s car.

      Police say the offences took place between August 2012 and November 2013.

      Their relationship was discovered when homeowners called police about a couple having sex in a car parked in front of their house.

      After her arrest, Mason breached her bail conditions by contacting the boy and was re-arrested in May.

      Romantic text messages that Mason sent the boy while honeymooning with her new husband were read in court in front of her parents and friends.

      The boy did not testify stating he is not a victim and saying he would go to jail for Mason and wants to marry her.

      Through her lawyer, Mason accepted full responsibility for her actions and apologized to the boy, the families and her ex-husband.

      She will spend the next two years in a federal prison and her teaching credentials will be permanently revoked in Canada.

      Mason will also be a registered sex offender for the next 20 years.

      Feminism is a Conspiracy against men

      July 16, 2014 at 12:50 pm

    • In reply to “Madeline Weisenberg”, not to mention that you are the scum of the earth (like many other people have suggested in their replies), but the thing that bothered me the most was your “attack” against women in their 20s. What the fuck are you talking about age of consent 40??? What planet you live on? I am a very attractive 22-year-old woman who is dating plenty mature men ages 35-45 (that you have no chance with haha) and YES I DO want to have sex with them! I don’t need no old dumb bitch like yourself to tell me when I should have sex. You are probably the type of bitch who regrets she didn’t have many sex partners in her 20s and now she is hating on the young women who are getting plenty of action. Get a grip!


      July 22, 2014 at 5:57 pm

    • Go get your dildo and fvck yourself. It’ll do you a lot of good.

      Buck Ofama

      July 26, 2014 at 8:19 pm

    • …and here we have a typical Western woman, who has been indoctrinated by feminism, who doesn’t have brains to solve sh1t, who also thinks that men are all evil, women are all virtuous and that men need to be imprisoned. Would you marry this woman? Or anyone she calls a “friend”? Thank you for posting, you nasty thing, and given men an example of what they’re in for!


      July 28, 2014 at 10:22 am

    • Who are you trying to manipulate? If there’s any oppression it is of men, done by manipulative women like you. I recall the cases in Canada where “professional” complainers of domestic violence, date men with the sole objective of making fake accusations of domestic violence and getting good sums of money from that.

      At least one woman is in a Canadian jail because of that, after it was got proven that she lied in her accusations and repeated with different men.


      July 29, 2014 at 4:13 am

  3. this is so true. I’m living in bad marriage right now because of money or the lack of it. I grew up in the 70’s and everybody i knew came from a divorced family. The reality is after the first 3-4 years of marriage its was fun, but now it has become mundane and boring. I should have known better. I told my wife i wanted a divorce and the first things she said was she is going to take everything. I was dumbfounded. Now I set here typing wishing she would just drop over dead. That is only way out of this marriage.


    July 12, 2014 at 6:44 pm

  4. Canadian feminists are like cockroaches. They infect every sane area with their radical ideas. Dating tip if your girlfriend attended any post secondary school in Ontario, much worse Toronto, DONT MARRY HER.

    David Spielman

    July 13, 2014 at 7:41 am

  5. Just get a maid since it is simpler and cheaper in the long run. Marriage is NOT only a bad business decision for men in Western countries. I am an Asian guy. When I started my career, no women wanted me. Now I have a good job and two businesses. Very easy to get even hot girls. But I have learned that I am just an asset for women. It is all just about money.


    July 17, 2014 at 11:18 am

  6. Do you also have reasons why marriage is bad when it comes to europe? It’s not really necessary to give diamond rings here and I dunno really about alimony. Afaik women have to gain their own money if children are above a certain age so my bf doesn’t see why marriage is bad. He believes you can avoid costs of divorce by just not getting divorced although in germany one has to go to court to get a divorce. All in all it’s at least 4000 to get a divorce.

    So hiw can I explain to him his romantic believes are stupid?


    July 18, 2014 at 5:30 am

    • Because in Europe, divorce and separation become a burden for struggling fathers.

      {{{{{{Franco, 56, who did not want to use his full name so as to avoid the shame of his wife and two daughters learning of his troubles, left his native Puglia in April after his business went bankrupt. He said he traveled to Milan to look for work, in part to keep up alimony payments to his wife of 34 years, whom he is divorcing. The couple separated about a year and half ago, he said.

      “In Puglia I was living day to day, but I couldn’t keep that up forever,” he said, adding that he was still supporting his daughters, both of whom are in their early 20s but unemployed.}}}}}}

      Even though a 2006 law made joint custody of children the norm when parents split, Italian courts continue to make mothers the primary caregivers while fathers bear the financial brunt of the separation. Critics say the law, as it is applied, favors women, whose participation in the work force has steadily grown, reaching 46.5 percent, according to Istat.

      In Spain, court filings against fathers who have not paid child support have risen sharply since the start of the economic crisis. Recent news reports in places like Navarra and Galicia describe fathers who have been jailed for failing to support their children. In April last year, a Barcelona judge denied parental custody to a divorced father, citing the fact that he had lost his job.

      Homelessness, too, is growing. In Greece, Klimaka, a charity group, estimates that the number of homeless has increased by 25 percent in the past two years. The trend is a concern in a country where traditionally strong family ties have usually averted such phenomena. A third of those who had registered as homeless were divorced or separated, and mostly men, according to a study published in February by the National Center for Social Research.

      Child support payments in Denmark can continue until a child turns 24 (if the kid is still in school, which of course he or she is likely to be in Europe, the original home of infinite adolescence).

      And now the European Union is trying to crack down on “Alimony dodgers and divorce shoppers.”

      So now you can explain to your boyfriend that his romantic beliefs are stupid.


      July 18, 2014 at 11:31 am

  7. Then its settled, I stay Single and Happy


    July 20, 2014 at 2:42 am

  8. The MGTOW movement is gaining pace in femicommie cities such as Toronto:…/why-is-it-so-hard-to-hook-up-in-toronto/


    July 22, 2014 at 10:07 am

  9. I could only read half-way before stopping in disgust to post this undeniable conclusion: G0DDAMNED BlTCHES! I’m sure glad that, when I divorced young, we didn’t have much, and the bltch gave me a quit-claim deed on the house. Now MY house is paid off and I have several hundred thousand in savings. LOL.

    Buck Ofama

    July 26, 2014 at 8:17 pm

  10. I married, then later divorced. It ended very amicably and was inexpensive and painless.

    However, my ex and I agreed, why the hell are we paying over £500 in legal fees just to file a piece of paper? Why are we asking the state for permission?
    Ironic that the first time I really sat down to think, philosophize actually, about marriage was after my first one had ended.

    Our conclusion is that marriage is philosophically speaking … nonsense. An agreement between loved ones … and the state.
    The state has no business in personal affairs such as this. The historical role of religion and religious ethics also bothers me.

    Countries that have introduced laws that make cohabitation legally similar to marriage are completely toxic, and develop a “breeder class” of broken families and unwanted children. Even entering a long term relationship in such a legal framework is like running into a minefield.

    I have a cousin who married last year, and he’s a perfect “nice guy”. Steady well paid job in the IT sector. But I’m worried for him because his wife is no good.
    She has so many RED FLAGS already.
    They started dating when she was still a university student, and she’s never worked.
    She cheated on him while he was furthering his career in America for 6 months.
    The wedding was expensive and stereotypical. The ring and the honeymoon were expensive. The gift list had none of his personality in it. It’s like he didn’t exist. It was all things that aspiring middle class people choose, even though they can’t really afford it.
    She started gaining weight (letting herself go) even before engagement, and she also said she wanted a dog.
    Right after marriage she changed “dog” to child. She is now obese in her mid 20s, and wants children immediately and said she’ll never work.
    My cousin is so passive that he’ll probably just tolerate everything, including the inevitable infidelity, but if he does snap it will end in a horribly messy divorce.
    Basically he’s doomed.

    If I could meet myself 10 years ago, the advice I’d give myself would be:
    Don’t waste time and money dating, because partners have a tendency to just turn up anyway.
    Don’t get married just because society expects it. If you can’t find a reason within yourself then don’t do it.
    Talk about marriage relatively early on. I was lucky because we had similar ideals, but probe your partner. If she(they) describe a DeBeers diamond wedding then BAIL BAIL BAIL BAIL BAIL!

    Eat properly and workout as a habit of living. Not for vanity or anyone else sake but for yourself. Build a good physique and earn the right to DEMAND the same from your partner. If your partner isn’t already physically fit, they will definitely, definitely let themselves go once they feel secure.
    Socially speaking men aren’t allowed to be fat; people will tell fat males to hit the gym. Therefore you must reject “female fat acceptance”. A fat female will drag your social standing into the gutter.
    It’s a myth that middle aged men “spread”, or women become hippos just because they had a child. Look at non-western people for evidence that none of this is inevitable.
    Disregard propaganda. You’re not a loser for being single for any length of time. Focus on your life goals and don’t jump from relationship to relationship.

    I learned this life lesson very cheaply. It could have gone the other way, and destroyed my finances and mental health.
    Stay frosty guys.


    July 27, 2014 at 5:31 am

    • the new U.K Cohabitation bill 2014….

      Now living with a woman for 2 years is the same as marrying her. Ergo Marriage is worthless and intimacy and love are dished out by the government to unsuspecting victims. Success and marriage will soon be mutually exclusive, assuming the bill is successful (it has already passed the house of commons)

      Interestingly the bill’s sponsor, Lord Marks of Henley-on-Thames also has family property interests.

      John Galt

      July 27, 2014 at 5:44 am

      • I just assumed this was already law, because I’m almost positive I’ve read about cases of cohabiting men getting screwed over.

        To be honest I’m not very political, though my world-view could be described as individualist anarchist, same as my ex-wife.
        THX 1138 is where the UK is headed.


        July 27, 2014 at 6:38 am

        • These are most likely cases involving courts punishing men – anywhere there is money involved they’ll go after it but as far as the common law wife, that was a myth..until now. The problem with it is essentially it makes Marriage worthless particularly when you look at stories in the news of women who marry for kids and child support while working full time. Daddy state offers a much more lucrative reward than anyone but a rich man can and thanks to David Cameron that’s not going to change for a long time to come.

          Do Not Marry a woman should now be changed to
          Do Not Live with a woman.

          I’ve run out of fucks to give tbh.

          John Galt

          July 29, 2014 at 12:37 am

          • Common law varies here, but goes back about as far as regular marriage. Any study of these will indicate why they are as they are, reflecting culture as it was long ago. Back then, women had little or no standing, so laws and cultural norms made it difficult and socially unacceptable to divorce. Divorce was bad for kids, families, communities, women, and the society that ended up supporting them.
            Now of course, women are a voting bloc to be pandered to, and those who woo them must dig ever deeper into the gutter to buy that vote.
            I worked for a government agency, whose policy was to recognize common law marriage in states that recognized it, and based on each states laws regarding it. But, a court case came up a few years ago, where a couple from a non-common law state wanted a quickie divorce, and contended that a weekend they spent in Pennsylvania entitled them to an immediate divorce under Pennsylvania’s common law laws, as the weekend there qualified them.
            They won their case.
            At the time, I did not fully realize the repercussions, so guys, WATCH IT! I can see no reason why the more-than-equal women could not manipulate a guy so as to make screwing him over even easier and more convenient this way. Thinking the courts would rule in anything even approaching fair and reasonable is laughable.
            I guess you could always move to Nevada, ride the hookers, with lots of variety, and KEEP YOUR RECEIPTS! To document the fact it was a purchase of goods, a business transaction, not a relationship.
            What a mess our lowlife politicians have made of a once wonderful nation.


            July 29, 2014 at 4:47 am

  11. I find most guys I know who are married are under extreme pressure from their Canadian “princess” wives to afford her every luxury. It seems that people these days have incredible debt tolerance, and saving money is no longer required because people have bought into the “home / mortgage as an investment” concept. I can’t believe how much consumer debt people need to be incurring, just to afford nicer vehicles, over-priced spec homes (gotta have that granite counter top!), vacations. I can understand why two people working would hire a nanny, because if you have two or more kids, a nanny is actually cheaper than daycare if you’re not subsidized. But I can’t beleive it when a “stay at home mom” expects her husband to get her a nanny so she can have adequate “me time” while he’s out of town at work. It also seems that there are a lot of people we know that are either contemplating divorce, divorcing, or they simply SHOULD be seeing how miserable both of them are. Constant fighting over money and sex. It always seems it’s the same argument – “HE” is not bringing home enough money. It’s always about MORE MONEY. I have never heard a woman say “We need to curb our spending. Maybe some of the things we are enjoying we simply cannot afford.” I really think the modern “Western” woman is spoiled, entitled and has been taught by feminism and her mommy that she is a princess and she deserves is all – especially because she has a career. Big f*cking deal. I have a career too, but this does not entitle me to spend whatever I please and insist the world owes me a “Kardashian” lifestyle. Women these days are completley unreasonable with what they expect, and I believe they take out financially far far more than they put in. As for equality, the couples where she makes more are far and few betweeen – and in the vast majority of cases, I find it’s the woman who is the one with the sense of entitlement and the spending problem / debt problem(s) that go along with it. I am glad my wife left me. Now I am in complete control of my finances, and I am not longer going into more and more debt, and can actually save money again. I do not believe there is a female partner “out there” who can join me and make me stronger financially. This “married people are more financially stable” thing is complete nonsense. The married man is now expected to spend spend spend, and the women want more than is realistic even on two incomes.


    July 28, 2014 at 10:53 am

    • in reply to sid

      Toronto and Vancouver womyn have the worst reputations. Oddly enough these 2 cities have the largest housing bubbles in Canada. Investors should invest somewhere else and let the big government Marxist public unions fend for the leftover scraps of taxes.


      July 29, 2014 at 4:26 pm

  12. reply to “Feminism is a conspriacy movement”

    Smart move to quote a newspaper article about the female teachers.

    There are some union cronies who are angry that the teacher scandal came into the limelight. Most likely opened a can of worms about unprofessional conduct of public school management in the provincial school boards.

    On the extreme side, some of the female teachers in Canada have resorted to filing opportunity lawsuits such as Strategic Lawsuits Against Public Participation.

    SLAPP lawsuit filers frequently file lawsuits based on ordinary civil claims such as defamation when in fact they hold little validity to their claims.

    Whether you are writing about a female teacher- student scandal or speaking on an issue of public importance such as public education, always make sure your statements can be linked back to news reports, court documents or public records.

    The feminists in Canada have the upper hand in court. Think twice before posting about an allegation because union representation is likely to file lawsuits aimed at squelching public speech.

    SLAPP lawsuits ordinarily arise out of defamation lawsuits, play it safe because even if the female teachers are accused of unprofessional conduct, they can obtain assistance from their union cronies to file these frivolous and authoritarian lawsuits in court.

    This is the democracy of Canada where female teachers are allowed to use the court system to sue individuals who try to communicate about matters of public interest and importance.


    July 29, 2014 at 4:13 pm

  13. in reply to Madeline Wesienberg

    The white knight social conservatives in Canada suck, but why are female management and teachers allowed to file SLAPP lawsuits against anyone who points out teacher-student scandals?

    And when I mean allowed to file, they obtain support from their provincial teachers unions and teaching certificate membership.

    Public sector unions, Marxism & feminism are a recipe for authoritarian control. We get it already.


    July 29, 2014 at 4:18 pm

  14. in reply to david

    its more than that…when you mix public sector government unions, Marxism, feminism and white knights you create the country known as Canada.

    Men are second class citizens here, and they don’t even know it, with the exception of some MGTOWs.

    Liberated womyn in Canada can use the court system to divorce, pillage, sue, silence, discredit and destroy anyone she opposes, mainly men.

    The last paragraph is enough to tell you how scary Canada is for men. And you have white knight social conservatives kissing the ground of holier-than-thou feminists & they want to make sexual freedom limited for men.

    Is Madeline petitioning to ban porn too? F***ing fascist scum. She is probably a union-backed government employee or public school teacher. Another reason why I try to pay as less taxes as possible and rather donate directly to help the poor.


    July 29, 2014 at 4:24 pm

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